How do I handle my husband's crack binges?

[scurit]

My husband disappeared overnight 2 weeks ago, on a crack binge. He showed up the next morning with his apologies, of course. I get few answers from him.. a few days later a cop showed up looking for him since his vehicle was involved in a theft. He swears he had no involvement, but he also swore he was alone. The cop had a picture of a woman that was photographed during said theft. I have no idea who she is. He says that he doesn't know her, that she had dropped off drugs and he let her and her posse borrow his vehicle. I know it's not true, but I don't know what to do. I guess I didn't realize how far fetched it sounded until I wrote it all down. I love this man and I hate the idea of having to end it between us. It has been 2 weeks and he has sought no help, as he said he would, and I feel like a nag for bringing it up anymore. He just wants everything to go back to normal, like it always does, until the next time. Sometimes these binges are months and months apart (as far as I know). I have no idea if I should leave him to fall alone or stick with him, even though it doesn't help.

[cvhenny]

Dude, please take this with the UPMOST respect but crack & hookers go together like ...crack and hookers!

[Dee1956]

I have no idea if this will help you or not however, if I were  you I would do some searching.
I used to have a friend who turned into an acquaintance. He got involved with crack. From what I have read it is very addictive.  Thank God we had moved before this happened or I might have had a very different story.  
My acquaintance did so much that he damaged his heart and died from congestive heart failure, much too young.

When crack was first advertised on TV by Oprah, my parents called me, fearing for my children and told me that it was said that just one time could cause addiction.
I don't know if true or not.

[Dee1956]

Hi there, I am sorry for what you are going through. You are worth much more than this.
In Alanon there is a saying, "Distance with Love" It isn't easy or fun however you are not the cause of him doing this.  I am worried about the police showing up.  That is frightening that he lent his car to strangers.
Would you do that?
It is very suspicious

I wish you the best
Dee

[dominosarah]

He needs to be held accountable for his actions.  He goes on binges and then expects everything to be okay?  It isnt okay.  Check into Alanon.  Those people have been thru this sort of thing and will be able to help you.  We are also here to help.  We are recovering addicts so we know the games that are played.

[motye51]

DO NOT accept that things will go back to normal.  Going on crack binges is not like accidentally getting too drunk one night and regretting what you did the next morning.  
What were the conditions that you two agreed to when he finally showed up back home?  Did you tell him he had to get help in order for things to work out between you two?  If so.....stick to it.  This situation isn't going to get better.....eventually, it will get worse!

Keep posting and talking.....this forum is filled with people (including me) that have been there and done that!

[10356]

Hello Scurit. Welcome to the forum. Well it sure does sound highly suspicious.. My ex and I did speed together A lot. Speed makes you highly sexual so just in case I would recommenced you get tested for sexually transmitted diseases and Hep C. Those who like speed hang with some really shady characters. As far as him doing crank. He is a addict. As a addict it has to come from us that we realize this. Right now his addiction is more Important then you his home his car.. He has jeopardized it for a cheap high.. Someone that did not have this problem would never do this.. I'm glad you came seeking answers for it not anything to be tested for yourself. I can not advice you on what to do But I can say Some addicts will respond to hard truths and Consequences If there are No consequences then what motivation is there to give up something you Love.. I hope this is Helpful. There is also a group called Al Anon It is a support group of loved ones of addicts Google it they are all over. A addict can make You feel like You are the 1 insane. You are not. Listen to your Gut, I wish you well. lesa