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How many of you have...RELAPSESED...Please comment
RELAPSED before?
I read posts on here and sometimes comment...i have been clean of opiates for a pretty long time, but remember the early struggle...
I relapsed a few times before i really got clean...it was frustrating...so many of us do...and it scares us...
I am writing this because so many of the newbies to recover relapse and beat the wholly heck out of themselves for it...
so I ask YOU ALL to please chime in...let them know that a relapse, although not ideal, seems to be the norm for most, if not all of us...so what's the key? For me it was to not self loath and pick thyself up, dust thyself off and try try try again until success (one day at a time)
I read posts on here and sometimes comment...i have been clean of opiates for a pretty long time, but remember the early struggle...
I relapsed a few times before i really got clean...it was frustrating...so many of us do...and it scares us...
I am writing this because so many of the newbies to recover relapse and beat the wholly heck out of themselves for it...
so I ask YOU ALL to please chime in...let them know that a relapse, although not ideal, seems to be the norm for most, if not all of us...so what's the key? For me it was to not self loath and pick thyself up, dust thyself off and try try try again until success (one day at a time)
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I think the common denominator we all can agree on in here is that those who have successfully managed to stay clean for a long period of time HAVE HAD to endure a relapse or two or three or four and so on... it's a learning process. If you've never relapsed after quitting, you were never an addict in the first place. That being said, it's a learning process and a unique one for each of us. We learn from mistakes, we don't learn from the whole 'this is right and this is wrong and don't question any of it' logic. If we relapse we question why. If we continuously relapse we still question why. Relapse is not a failure period. It's a way of learning how not to quit. We're really not that irrational. Excuses only last for so long until you realize it's getting old and it's better to just solve the problem entirely and with trial and error. NA and AA is not a silver bullet but that's just my opinion. There is no silver bullet, just YOUR bullet. And there are studies out there that show beating yourself up over a relapse does more harm than good in your recovery which I think was the original intention of this post.
And I didn't mean to imply that you were giving anyone an excuse...Your's is a great post, something that needs to be discussed. For those of us who are neck deep in to it, relapse has been a part of our struggle. I just want to be sure that no one reads this the wrong way. But, you and I both know someone will.
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thanks again...
I was not trying to give anybody and excuse to relapse, but to ease the minds of those who already have and are beating themselves up over it...as i said...if you do, it's not good, but it's not the end of the world...
I see relapse at a failure...to be sure...but i just want to point out that many (not all) roads to success are paved with failures.
I was not trying to give anybody and excuse to relapse, but to ease the minds of those who already have and are beating themselves up over it...as i said...if you do, it's not good, but it's not the end of the world...
I see relapse at a failure...to be sure...but i just want to point out that many (not all) roads to success are paved with failures.
I relapsed many, many times over 15 years. I would listen to my own BS, you know...I will only take the pills per the script from now on; I will only take a pill when I really need it; I've gone through detox, it was horrible, and I've learned how to "control" my addiction; I will only take one or two because I'm stressed and need to relax - for my family. And on and on.
Relapse happens, but just because it happens that does not mean it's OK, or can be expected. If anyone goes in to recovery thinking that others have relapsed, and that relapsing is just a bump on the normal road to recovery, then why bother? Just because others have done it doesn't make it right.
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Relapse happens, but just because it happens that does not mean it's OK, or can be expected. If anyone goes in to recovery thinking that others have relapsed, and that relapsing is just a bump on the normal road to recovery, then why bother? Just because others have done it doesn't make it right.
K
After relapsing a few times I started re-naming it in my head as "rein forcemeat ". It wasn't the first pill that had me regretting it, but somewhere in the first script that muscle memory and all the knowledge I had learned ruined the high and "reminded" me why I quit. Openminded said in an earlier thread that AA and NA ruined him ever getting trashed again and that made a lot of sense to me. Staying connected to others in all phases of recovery whether it be meetings/church/social networks/education sure helps keep one honest. Great thread Rush.
I tried many times to quit unsuccessfully, so not sure if that is considered relapse cuz I agree with Heather, I wasn't in recovery. However, I did find myself cross-addicting to alcohol which took me awhile to come to terms with...working on that as we speak. One day at a time.
I didnt relapse because I had no recovery I abused caffiene and smoked a J
but its been 121 days substance free
but its been 121 days substance free
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