How to help/deal with a loved one with a drug problem

[Leah]

I feel like I'm at the end of my rope! Having a heart condition (open heart surgery) recently, the stress of dealing with a unhappy child on drugs and knowing what to do for them,the right way to handle the situation, and not cause them more trouble is
becoming more difficult each day. Question, do I keep calm and agree with them, listen to there problems,or get angry and shout and say "you have to help yourself first"? Please give me any advice so I will do the right thing.  Thank You!

[Brighty]

Dear Light Bearers,

Thank you for your kind comments which I just found in The Neverending Thread. I would reply in the same to each of you but to do so would only gild the lily. You know who you are and the truth is in your hearts.

RE: Removal of this thread. Why would anyone remove the main attraction ? The web master must find this very entertaining. I don't think there is much else that is entertaining about addiction.

Those who seem to be longest on memory are those who are neediest in terms of feeling worthy of love... they cannot close the chapter and continue to beg, finding every possible way to gain approval and attract limelight. It's a hallmark of addiction and not everyone seems to find healing from it.

Hard ,for me especially, but worth the effort is to choose peace.

( One way to begin practicing this is to ignore the assholes. It's an eartly exercise and does not require any cosmic consciouness to do it. )

Love, Maria Seraphina

[Brighty]

Re: Invisible

That which is clearly viewed no longer exists.

That = he/she , as well as anything else

Love, Maria Seraphina

[Angelica]

I am behind you 110%.  You are a breath of fresh air.  Blessings are definately coming YOUR way.
Love ya sister,

Angelica*annie

[Angelica]

You are absolutely correct in what you say.  Was "that" comment invisible or what?  I noticed it, and so did you.  HELLOOOOOO

[susanlea]

You hit the nail on the head with your comment on ,"the addict isn't the only one who is sick". You could have been talking about me.  Myself....yes I became obsessed and addicted to him, and strange as it is, very textbook..I am an adult child of an Alcoholic parent....It's very real and very scarey. I am finding out, through theraphy, I have continued this relationship with my ex, because he was exactly like my Father. We as adults continue to try and change, to fix, to recreate what was familiar to us in childhood.  It could be very sick and insane, but unless we become aware of it....it will continue to go on and on.  I work every day at changing myself, my bad habits, my insane way of thinking and relating. And my attitudes. Right now I'm just taking the time to find out who I am, without a partner, what I want, what I need. And just loving and being there for my children..I didn't have an identity without him, I was so obsessed with him I had lost myself.. But I will find myself again, and I will be a better person, wife  and mother because of what I let happen to me. Thank you for your kind words and support.  Compulsion is such a nice thing to let go of.  Let Go and Let God........Goodnight.....Love Susan Lea

[pelle1985]

Also. . .I quite liked your set of quotes.  Rationalism is often overrated.

Peace,
Pelle