Lonely

[NickyBones]

after kicking my habbit seventy days ago i feel as if i am alone and no one understands me? I got into a fight with my father while on break from college and he called me things like "junkie" and "looser" and to top it all off he told me that i am not his son and he could never produce a kid like me. I got drug tested that same say and only drugs that came up positive were THC and suboxone. How can he still call me those names when i am fighting so hard and doing all i can to not use, im getting alright grades in school an i feel he should support me, not hurt me.I just need anyone to tell me that things will work out because i lost most of my friends and now my family is  finally fed up when im the most sober i have ever been . i am just so lonely and feel as if my whole life has changed in the last few months

[persnick38]

I'm really sorry that you're hurting right now. Try to remember that your father has been hurting and worrying about you for a long time. Now, that's not an excuse for him to say hurtful things to you but he's probably just now feeling safe to say some of the things that he's been holding in for a long time.
Remember, just b/c someone says something doesn't make it true. You should be so proud of yourself for 70 days clean. You hold onto that and be proud of yourself and keep moving forward.
With time and continued sobriety, your father will come around and see how hard you have worked and how far you have come. Actions speak louder than words so don't tell him - SHOW him. Hang in there and keep fighting for this. You can do it!

[newmanagment]

nick, unfortunalty, to most of the rest of the world we are not referred to as addicts, but crackheads, junkies, poppers, fiens, well ya get my point. as for your father callin ya that, well let me put it this way, he is hurt by the things  you have done, and its his way of dealing, dont let it setcha back. 70 days to US is an awesome accomplishment, to them it is just more time waiting for us to hurt them again. my family has been thru the wringer for so many years they aint tryin to hear i got 30 or 60 or 90 days clean!! they want to hear i have YEARS clean ,then they can let out the breath they hold every time i start to fight my addiction again!! see, they actually sit and wait, and wonder when we will let them down, not when we will be totally done. sad, but true!! and how can  we blame them ? , we put them in that spot right?  so heres my take, lets just keep fighting the fight, and when they see how hard we want it , the support an love will start to come back... as for lonely, i feel ya there!! all my friends but a couple are drug addicts, andi cut all the users outta my life, i had too.... so just keep posting and we will be here for ya... if ya dont want to open post, send me a message, i am here to listen to ya cry , *****, moan, and complain..... its wut i do best :)

[allaboutmary]

Your post breaks my heart.  Please know you are doing the right thing. I think alot of us get that lonely feeling.  We have had to make alot of changes to get clean. Just keep doing the right thing and it will get better. Please don't let others negativity get to you. They really don't understand addicts. They don't realize what a strong person it takes to get clean and stay clean.  70 days is amazing and you should be so proud. Non-addicts don't get this, but we do !   Keep posting.   Hugs to you !   Mary

[worried878]

Your family will turn around...hang in there...when we were hurting those around us while using, we did not realize it takes a while to forgive and forget/for some that is...But they hurt because they love us...it will change when you are sober for a while...they may not believe you yet..that you are serious this time...Quitting can be lonely...your energy level gets zapped and u dont have the pizazz to get out as much as we used to...I live alone and have spent much more time at home since I quit than I ever did...but I am content..most of the time/when I am not putting lortabs in my mouth and spitting them out/not funny...give it some time...are you doing any follow up like NA or AA?  this forum is also great and can take the lonliness away..keep posting

[confused456]

Things WILL work out. A lot of people do not understand addiction if they have not lived it. 70 days clean is GREAT!!!! You need to be so proud of yourself. I am proud of you! That is a great accomplishment. Hang in there. Things do work out eventually. Stick to what you need to be focused on which is staying in school and staying clean. Best of luck to you!!!

[cat9841]

hey, my family actually said they liked me better on the drug because then I didn't have oppinions. that sucked so bad. I know how your feeling. its their problem, not yours. take care and have a good day.
CAT