My son, drugs and grandchild

[gina960]

My son has distanced himself from,(me, his mom, brother and his sister). He moved several times in
the past year. My grandson is a toddler. He cant stay at a job very long. He called me yesterday asking for money but I know hes' using drugs. Hes' been going to a Meth clinic. I know if I give
him money which he claims he'll use it in a good way....I dont believe him. He cussed me out over
the phone and simply said "F...ck you Mom". I feel so broken-hearted. I was going to visit my grandson for the second time since his birth and I am very concerned for the baby. Presently, the
baby is with the other grandparents. What's worst is they are alcoholics.  I am deeply worried about the baby, all of this is unstable for im.What can I do and by making the trip will I beable to accomplish anything. I feel he and his wife need rehad but what can I do. I live in another state? My son is very intimidating and I have been sick and protection is a concern for myself s well.
Any suggestions would be most helpful.

Gina

[lostmarbles]

so sad to hear what you are going through.. your son sounds like an angry man.. I know in the past I was angry too and I sent my mum a text message once telling her not to contace me or her grandchildren again.. I was so angry at her but for no reason at all. Addiction can do that to some of us.. In retrospect I was angry at myself no one else, and was trying to lay blame on others... the old saying goes, 'you always hurt the ones you love'.... my mum, God Bless Her, never gave up and now we are as strong as ever but whilst I was in the middle of addiction no one could save me.. I had to save myself. I dont know what to say other than pray and keep trying to talk to your son and voice your concerns.. if he needs money then suggest you tell him that you will buy what the baby needs and give it to him but hard cash is not an option..Please let us know how things go .. I wish you lots of luck and love and I will pray for your situation

[oxyaddict420]

Wow, sounds like a handful here. I am glad to hear that the toddler is the #1 concern here, as well it should be..  If you think it is that out of control and that the baby is in harms way, then maybe you should call someone that specializes in that type of circumstance.. If you have someone that could maybe make the trip with you and be there with you to at least make sure that you are not in danger at all that would be great.. This sounds like a slippery slope, and you really need to be careful. So take precautions with twhatever you decide to do ok?  You have every right to be concerned for that child and you need to do whatever you feel is right to help.. Please keep us posted..

[lucyred68]

Hun, i don't know what to say other than I will be praying for you and the decisions you have to make.  I will also pray for the protection of your grandson.  Ir must be heartbreaking to see a little one have to go through that.  I will pray for the healing and restoration of your son and daughter in law.  God can do anything, as I well know.

Lucy