This is a tough one for me- I dont even know where to start- Well,kind of- I started using drugs at the age of 12-
thats 6th grade- 1969!!!! Already kicked crack once- till my husband brought it home,cuz snorting hurt his nose- I was pissed, let him know he will like it too much- He spent 3days in the basement-smoking his guts out, and had a stroke on the 4th day- back home hid his stash- he has always been sneaky,coniving, and truth strecher-
silly me thought I could change that- HA!!! I have been embarresed and humiliated when the truth comes out
or someone slips--uh oh---- 17years later and several separations, I found it,, in his lunch box- empty smoke pack- 10 small bags of this brown stuff- i knew he liked pain meds- but this- I stole one- not wanting to beleive what it was- may some sort of special mix... it was verified- H - ****- just went thru 5 years of pain and torture with my sister- sucking the life out of our now over 80yr old parents..
Anyway- floored and horrified to say the least- now what do I do, he never listens to me- so what do I say to shake him into some sort of reality- well, said my piece- that was 2months ago- nothing changed, no sex no talking-
watching him fad farther away- Well- It all came to a terrible relief last night- busted ----- in possesion of 3 baggies of H - buying more and they found 12 diff kinds of narcotics in the car... today he is off to detox after visting the judge-
his buddy who has "pull" got him a bed, and he had enough wits to make it to work and get him self laid off before his little retreat- not easy, but this man always always has somesort of plan.. someone to make a shortcut for him...
And, I dont even get a thank you for bailing me out of jail - 45min drive eachway- not even a blankety Im sorry
my question- do I stay or do I go??? I have no direction at the moment - I have dealt with so much with him (exwife 2 kids yada yada)....what is one more :"test" ... he is so emotional-less... is it worth it?
wow...I am just a little lost soul swimming in a fish bowl . (for you Pink Floyd fans)
any input is most appreciated
I will have my 51st birthday this month- I cant come to terms with the years-
but, I can come to terms with WHY.... sexually abused by family member at 8years- created a serious,still current fear of abandonment, and looking for love in all the wrong places- believing that sex meant love-...so I was very
generous with it, and always hurt... So, drugs we my reliable pals, starting with, LSD, mind altering- they allowed to dissect my self and find an internal awareness... so I didnt have to rely on anyone else for strength- hence- agnostic to this day...all i ever wanted was someone to care and be nice,compassionate- and reliable, I still believe to this day,
with virtually no friends- that everyone leaves me... I am sure I sabbotage relationships to lessen the eventual blow.
Back to my using- I was clean when I met my 1st husband -1977- in the lush mountains of Idaho- had my beautiful daughter 1979- 2nd husband bailed when I wouldn't become "christian" lasted 6months- prego- then abortion- boy they were pissed- not to offend anyone- back to drugs 1984- off and on sense- found counseling thank god-
any- My darling husband of 10years - together for about 17- has just been bust for for possesion, and intent to purchase heroin- caught red handed- and the dogs found 12 other types of narcotics in our car-
including already purchased 3 grams of H- I guess he was stocking up...
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