Need help on relationships and in-treatment

[brightfuture]

So as some of you know I am a few days off my vic problem once again.  I have been trying for a while and I will make it six days and the tempatation was just too much bc my bf is a heavy pill user.  So no matter how he would try and hide them I would find them as any good drug addict could.  So amongst the advice of some of you I went to an addiction specialist who told me it probably would not work to stay with this man if he continues.  So I tell him that.  He has been ready to quit for a long time and tried but he took a lot more than I did and methodone. So six days ago I shipped him off to some really nice place and they all get their own rooms some in different houses. So there is only him and one other gal.  How do I support him when I have this jeaously, I have been doing really good and have been so supportive because he is doing awesome but since there is just two they have to do everything together.  Is this a recipie for disaster.  Should I just take it what it is? He will probably do 45 days, not sure. I know how horny I get when I get clean.  I say if he can have it here he can have it there.  I guess just focus on my own recovery right now and not focus on that.  It seems inevatable from others I have heard?

[Htownnofrown]

I would recommend getting into an NA meeting and getting a sponsor if you havent already done so. The 12 step program will teach you how to focus on yourself and understand that anything beyond your own actions is out of your control. Trust is important but acceptance is the most important thing in our situation. Accept that you can only worry about yourself right now, and that whatever happens, it is that way for a reason. Good luck to both o you!

[pattifan]

I feel really sorry for you. What a horrible situation to be in.

Console yourself with the thought that you couldn't have done anything else. If he hadn't gone into rehab, you'd never be able to quit, ant the two of you would almost certainly have split up.

This way you've both got a good chance. If you visit, try very hard not to show any sign of jealousy because that could drive a wedge between you both.

As Vicki said, this is your time now. Time to focus on your own mental and emotional health and well-being.

Thinking of you, and take care of yourself

[vicki595]

Here's what I think:  It is what it is... You have no control over his situation so focus on yourself.  Don't torture yourself thinking about what he could be doing.  Anyway,the rehab staff watches closely for that sort of thing because it is not allowed.

Take care of you... :)