Please help im in love with Xanax addict and I need to understand his disease...

[addicted_to_an_addict]

First of all I would like to say thank God for forums of this nature.  I have been up all night looking up Xanax and pot addiction, poetry of addicts etc and stumbled across this.  Call me crazy and I will say your right.  But I am in love with a wonderful man whos life has been through hell and back due to his 15mg a day use of xanax(for the past 2 years) and 7-8 joint a day addiction for the past 11.  He doesn't have his teaching career due to his disease. He is having withdrawals when he wakes up from sleep because of the xanax.  Stomach pains (excruciating in his own words), diarrhea, dry mouth, paranoia, moodiness, vomitting, everything.  I have researched xanax at my work because I administer medications daily to my clients and was so surprised that Xanax can cause coma, death and even seizures.  I am scared for his life.  I have tried to understand when he says "baby, i cant quit, it hurts too much, I just have to live with it.All the pain goes away when i pop that lil pill, you just don't understand."  But I want to understand, I just don't know how to.  
Lately he has come out of his denial admitting he has a problem and admitting he needs and wants help, he is just scared toand has no insurance.  I guess I have many questions on how i can help him without being so preachy, so pushy but also not losing myself to his addiction as well.  WE are in a long distant relationship which makes it even more difficult.  
Are there any free rehab programs in Miami or near Miami? How do I deal with all my feelings without hurting him in the process?  Please help.......ty  Ren

[hopeicanhelp2]

Yes, I have researched the "coma induced detox" methods.  They induce a coma state and treat all withdrawal symptoms while you are sedated.  The process is called Anesthesia Assisted Rapid Opiate Detox (AAROD). It is being used more so in recent facilities however, you may want to check with your insurance for coverage.  I am a pharmacy tech and I know in our hospital the ICU would induce coma in addicts with Diprovan (propofol) and treat their addiction to avoid the deadly withdrawal risks.  Research, research.  Always arm yourself with knowledge for your talk with your physician.  Choose reliable sites for your research such as a medical facility or college of medicine.  Although our individual opinions are helpful, you need facts for your decision making.

[londeezy239]

i am 17 years of age, female.. i am addicted to xanex and perks.. somtimes i will take A MONKEY that can be a mixture of herion or exstacy..who knows..its home made.. so..just thought i might say to those who are going threw the strugal that you are not alone..stay strong..keep your head up.. never look down..


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[avisg]

hewolve welcome This is a very old thread it you may get over looked I would start a new thread .

[HeWolf]

All post I read is MY B/F my b/f. Is there any guy out there with a G/F that uses? And how to deal with it. The xanax exspence is crazy, the meth is questable. What to do what to do.

[Babychick82]

Let me tell you my story.. My b/f was taking 100 mg. of Oxy., a prescription for Xanax that was gone as soon as he filled them, and Percuset along with Speed, and Loratabs.  I loved him more than anything in the world, but his addiction to Xanax made him drowsy and therefore he lost 2 cars, 4 jobs, and me.
The day I left, I found out I was 3 months pregnant and I didn't know. I raised our baby until she was 9 months old on my own, and then he found a Methadone clinic. He is so much better, now and we got married on Valentine's Day of '09. But, I'm not going to tell you that it's still easy. I couldn't ask for a better daddy for my baby, but he still slips up on Xanax.
He's even told me that Xanax is a prescription for disaster, but I can't understand why he still does it every other month.
You may want to convince him to go to a Methadone Clinic and see what they can do for him. It has really changed my life and his. We don't argue like we used to and life is really pleasant.
Whoever says that Methadone is bad for you, really don't know what they're talking about. If I could record my life and show you the before and after, you would definetlly agree.
But, I need to learn how to control the situation when he does take Xanax every now and then. I fly off the handle (when he's sober), just because I want him to know how bad it hurts me to see him nodding, going to sleep in his bowl of cereal, and when he does lie to me about taking it, when I already know that he did.
When he is like that, our 18 month old daughter just looks at me like what is wrong with daddy, that is Not cool with me at all.
I hope this helps you realize that you are not the only person in the world that has this problem.
Every night, I go to bed praying for the person out there who is going through the same thing as me.
Regardless; if it's a mother, grandmother, father, brother, cousin, g/f, b/f, grandfather, uncle, aunt, or a stranger in the world. God will help by bringing comfort, joy, and the fact that he is there to support you.
May God Bless You.

[amzy22]

u have to be there for him, but you also have to put your foot down. my bf was taking just as much, if not MORE xanax than your bf has been taking and it took three hospital visits, me losing my job, him almost losing his job, losing an apartment, i could go on and on.... but we love eachother! "through sickness and health." it took my bf a year of feeling like **** and suffering horrible, HORRIBLE w/ds before he realized that he didnt want to lost his life, and more importantly, he didnt want to lose me. (ive used this site to try and get help for him before...u can read more ab it if u want.)

"Its me or the drugs!?"  - u need to learn this phrase. *i dnt mean to sound demanding, but its true* i love my now fience more than anything in the world!!! but if he puts another xanax bar in his mouth, its over for our six year relationship! and he knows that!

If he wants to be with you, and you guys want to live a healthy, happy life together, he has to quit taking the xanax. its VERY important that he doesnt just quit c/t. since he taking such high doses he will have to taper off very slowly. and if you love him as much as you say you do, and if HE really wants to quit, then the two of you have to do this together. ill tell you right now, taking care of my bf through his w/ds was a full time babysitting job!

u must really love him if you are on this site looking to help him. and if he loves you as much as you love him, he will get some help. if not for himself, for you.

i live in arkansas. but when my bf went through his w/ds and ething we found a free councling clinic that was very very helpful! there's a lot of help out there!
he just has to want it!

good luck to both of you!