SOCIALLY USING

[Korley]

I was just curious if anyone ever thought about using in social situations? I have a function to attend in a couple of weeks, and I am a shy person w/ anxiety so social functions are not my thing. Anyway, I can't drink alcohol b/c I am a recovering alcoholic. So this thought just popped in my head, why not just take some pills beforehand? The problem w/ that is I am afraid if I do that then it won't stop there. I would get hooked again. How can I get this thought out of my head?

[Crispy]

Try exposing yourself to semi stressful situation like talking to 1 new person everyday even if its just chit chat about some shoes or something. Try to get comfortable in everyday life where all you have to do if it gets to much is say bye and walk away. I was petrified to go to my rehab groups because I always did everything all day with pills. So i didnt know how to talk to ppl sober. Each time i went i got more and more comfortable talking infront of ppl and can go up to a perfect stranger and ask what kinda underwear are you wearing.

[Korley]

Thanks so much, I would love to hear about your natural remedies?

[CR_ST_NA]

i would also use in the past to feel socially acceptable all thought im not to shy of a person just low self esteem ..............................there are some natural remedies to help calm you if you are interested i-m me and i give you my ideas.....i agree with coco....is this function more important than your life?         think not...................... and remeber with addicts..........ONE IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND IS NEVER ENOUGH........... HUGS "C"

[Korley]

Thanks again for all of the feedback, it really helps to hear your thoughts!

[GoingToMakeIt]

To use just to function around or with others will almost always lead down a dark road.

[kris123]

sounds like you know what you need to do - don't take them.  one will lead to two, one day will lead to two and so on.  

[Mikeinthesouth]

Maybe thats whats wrong with my picture I have been trying to be a social user. WHat is that? I honestly don't know what the definition of a social user is. If you bang dope with more than one person present? LOL I don't believe it can be done. Just my thoughts and my opinion on that. Best of luck to you. Mike

[gizzy32]

i can't tell you how many times the thought of using socially just one time has entered my head. tonight i am going to a friends cottage for the night and it does pop in my head, but at least im not craving, just those dumb addict thoughts. just because you said you are shy does not make it right to use, the best thing about being a recovering addict is finding out who you are and to be comfortable in your own shoes without using drugs. do your best to face this fear head on instead of being high. best of luck to you

[cocobeanlisa]

Your never alone.........

[Korley]

TRUD DAT!

[cocobeanlisa]

And P.S. is the social engagment more important than your life ?

If not and you afraid you'll use, stay home with a good movie, that won't kill ya.

coco

[cocobeanlisa]

You said it in your post.

I am a recovering alcoholic, I have been sober since March 8th 1997.

I am trying to treat the pills just like the the booze, 1 is to many a 1000 not enough.

I would never dream I could have just 1 drink why do I want to think I could
take just 1 or 2 pills.  Matter of facta little over a month ago I was in pain
and thought I'll take just one pain pill for the pain, well 240 pills later here I am
starting all over agian.  My mistake was I never shared what was on my mind
so I think you took a great step in sharing your thoughts.

I have to learn from my mistake, please learn from my mistake also.

cocobean

[Korley]

how did you use so long socially and then it get you in the end? What happened?

[Korley]

I know what you all are saying and I know deep down that I would slowly start again, or maybe quickly who knows. I just hate feeling all anxious in social situations, I want to have a calm mind and enjoy myself. Why can't I just be one of those people who has fun no matter what? Why do I feel that I need to alter my mind?

[puranx]

i did it socially for years and years without an issue, it still got me in the end. Forget it, its over, you can never use em again

[avisg]

You are not the first person to wonder about thisI think at some point every addict has the same thought .However  If you are an addict thats not an option.We all think we will be able to only take a few for the night then just a few more .....Before you know it you are right back where you started .

[cathy5841]

hi korley, that would be a mistake.  you would reawaken a giat that you would battle for a long time.  many before you have the same thoughts.  i mean i would be sooo not telling the truth if i said i hadnt thought of it.  but, truth is addicts cant use socially.  i know pills have power if i give in.  please dont make that mistake.  and you get the thought out of your head by continuing to say no.  eventually it gets tired of hearing it.  good luck.

[Decisions]

I would suggest you don't.
From personal experience, most people can not stop at the "one" time.
I tried that a few times, and I just started slowly back into the routine.
I do believe it is possible to just use now and then, but for most, it doesn't work.
IMHO.
~decisions.

[desperate1111]

i've been battling the same thing for months. my work is demanding this time of year, i have to come in contact with so many people on a daily basis. i have come so close to relasping after being clean since january 7th. i know i can't gve in, the pills just about ruined everything i had going. i actually think the antidepressants keep me from relasping. stay strong, we have to win this!