Help!!!

[fluffy150]

My girlfriend is on H, she has been coping with it on her own, she stayed off it for 3 weeks, but the last few days she went back on it again, she told me she is doing coke,pot, H and now she is cutting  herself, its harder because i am back in england, as she lives in the states, she told me that there are many things she cant talk to me about, as where one of her male friends have been through the same as she has, my friend told me that she has alot of demons to fight before me and her can be together again, i have stuck with her because i love her, but she needs help, but she said she deals with it on her own, she said that our friends stress her out as they interfear with our relationship, as they tell her how much i love her, they do it because they care, which i do, otherwise i would of been long gone ..what can i do to help her? no matter what i say doesn't help, i have a job waiting for me in the states, i am doing that to be with her, ok i was stressed not long back, as my friend died and i took it hard, stress from home and i took my anger out on her, but she said she loves me ..she just needs her own space for awhile, am i right to hold onto her? help me

[kim715]

If having someone that loved you were enough to fight the demons of addiction there would be alot less addicts in the world.All you can do is be supportive and patient.It's not going to happen for her until she is sick and tired of being sick and tired.You need to keep focus on yourself as well as addicts we tend to pull the people we love the most down with us.I really do feel your pain and frustration as I was once in your shoes. My husband was an alchoholic before I ever had a problem with addiction.I remember the frustration,the anger,the lonliness I felt.Now he has been sober for three years and I'm the one fighting the demons,Now I understand why nothing I did could make him stop.He was powerless. It can be so hard to understand if you've never been there,My heart goes out to you.All you can do is point her in the right direction like inpatient rehab,N/A meetings,or this forum.This forum is wonderful,no matter what she is going through she will find someone here who knows exactly how she feels.Plus you get so much love and encouragement here,it's the main thing thats kept me sane through everything. I will pray for the both of you,stay strong and keep talking to the people here.I am new here but WOW what a bunch of great people.Blessings.

[feohmoon]

Sorry you are having to endure this...it is painful to love an addict.
We will keep you in our thoughts.
Peace

[coconuts27]

I think that all you can do for her is be supportive and encourage her. She will not get off all the drugs until she's ready. I am in the same situation with my ex. He wont come back to me until I'm clean (maybe), but he makes sure that I eat and that I dont do anything stupid. Thats all he can do. He cant make me quit. You can talk to her and tell her how much you love her, but thats about it. Send her to this forum. It's great. Im new, but the people here have been really supportive.