Thanksgiving

[Bkitty]

There are a lot of new members this year and some old ;). I cant believe its been a year for me already,,anywho last year Thanksgiving I was in withdrawal,,I think a lil over 10days sobriety at the time. My husband and I were splitting up at the time so he went to his family ( I was too embarrassed to go) and I was to go to Lucifer's (my moms). I ended up not going. I knew that seeing her was the last thing I needed at the time plus a HUGE trigger for me. To be honest I was pretty much a basket case last year this time. So,,I know that holidays are HUGE triggers for a lot of us addicts. So I wanted to know what ya'lls plans were and how do YOU plan on handling the triggers? This year I am going to 2 Thanksgiving's my hubby's and my family. I feel...Ok. I can do it,,its just one day. But last year-there was NO way. The one advice that I have is if you are stuck going and absolutely miserable and dont want to be there have an escape route planned. A get away car. I learned in therapy this past year,,that,,that is perfectly OK to do. I have to take care of ME. And that is perfectly OK to do. I also want to say that from the bottom of my heart,,I am so very thankful for all of you and this forum. For those that dont know me,,this forum saved my life! ((((hugs))))~Bkitty

[Bkitty]

I agree. The only way that Ive maintained sobriety & my sanity at times was the fact that I burned the pill bridge. Cuz there was plenty of times I probably would have caved if I had access to them. If there was ONE piece of advice to give-its cut the supply off and burn the bridge. I know some members are reluctant to do this because they feel they have the control more knowing they have pills and are not taking them. 99% they lose the battle. Ive learned so much here on this site. The other advice-have an escape route planned when having to go around family that are triggers. Ive already got my plan in place. Even though I anticipate everything is Ok this year-ya never know! Anybody have any other ideas?? (((hugs)))~Bkitty

[Fireby29]

Thanksgiving was when I started lurking here, eventually trying to get clean in November, relapsed a lot, first posted in April and eventually got clean for good in late June 2012.  

The trigger control for me is I just cannot get any pills and don't have any.  Ironically, thanksgiving last year I was in the same place (family travel) and using the worst ever, getting dope sick in the mornings.....I could see I was starting to spiral.

I am thankful that this thanksgiving I am clean and here with ya'll.

Bryan

[dominosarah]

Holidays can be very overwhelming.  When it gets to be that way, sit back and look around at all you have to be thankful for~

[gnarly_1]

HI Kitty good info in your post.....have a happy Thanksgiving...........Gnarly

[Pat1956100]

I guess I am lucky that we already had our Thanksgiving here in Canada.  I spent it in bed taking pills.  I was really upset that my son chose to spend it with his girlfriend in their new home instead of coming home, like he always has.  I blamed his gf and she is such a lovely girl.
Why would he want to come home to a drug addict mother, when he could spend it calmly with his gf in his home?
I get it now and by next Thanksgivng, we will be spending it together, one way or another.
He never says anything but I know he thinks a lot.
He hates that I used to sleep all day and was up all night.
Now I have been waking up at 7am and enjoying the day.

Sorry for rambling but I am thinking so much now and it just feels good.
Anyway, I won't have that to deal with over the next 4 days but I wish all of my new AMERICAN friends a Happy Sober Thanksgiving.

[Bkitty]

I just re-read my journal entries from last year Thanksgiving. I cant believe the "place" and mindset I was in. I remain forever humbled.

[Free2agoodhome]

Congrats!!!!!!  you are an inspiratrion

[mamaof4410]

I feel exactly the mase way! I was debating wether or not to go to my family's house tomorrow. And Im not going to go. I dont want to be around all of the chaos. Im looking foward to cooking tomorrow. Im about to start some pies and get my stuffing started today. Friday hubby and I are going to leave at 4a.m. to get some of the sales. So that will be fun. He has off 4 days this week so it will be alot easier having my best friend here with me. I would be a lost cause without him. You guys have truly saved me on those lonely days thoug. Im so greatful for all of you as well! Best of luck to you and your family! I will try and upload some new pics of my familt tomorrow:) HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO YOU! AND CONGRATS ON 1 YEAR!