Urgent -- Husband Has Disappeared !!!!!!!!!!!

[DeltaRedd1984]

My husband has not been seen or heard from since September 24, 2009.  He has a cell phone in his possession but refuses to answer calls from anyone including his parents. We tried texting him to find out if he is OK but he refuses to respond to anyone's text message.  He is a crack/meth addict.


Facts:

1) My husband and I were married for 11.5 years and never did anything remotely
    like this although we are currently separated, we still maintain contact.  He is
    living with
    his parents.
2) His parents claim he has never done this before
3) My husband has $2500 in cash on him prior to disappearing.  
4) My husband is 44 years old

Questions:

1) Is this normal behavior for a crack/meth addict?
2) When should the family report him missing to the police department?

[LostButterfly]

thats good. lets hope he reaches out.
it is a harsh reality of the possibilities of what he may be capable of, but its reality. I'm sure all addicts have had down points where u just don't know what to do & thoughts of ending your own life have ran thru your head, at least for me i've been there. Just due to the stresses & all the **** we've gotten ourselves into. Disappointment, shame, guilt, depression, worthlessness, etc... Its hard to see that we could ever get ourselves better.(i have not seeked rehab help myself yet, but at least i am no longer in denial, & know i need help)
Just keep trying, don't give up on him. And keep letting him know how much u care, that he has a purpose in this world, that you need him, and not sure if u have kids- but if so-stress that they really need him! And grand-babies etc... Let him know that this set-back is not a failure!! It is only a *set-back* and that he has plenty of life left to live & make it worth it! That he can start new & fresh!

Just keep trying!
Good Luck to you & your/his family!

[DeltaRedd1984]

I just read what you said and tears came to my eyes.  After I read your post, I text message him a phone number he could call for help.  I told him that the man at the other end of the line would come and help him.  In the message, I told him that his life has meaning and value, that I loved him.  I am praying so hard that he calls the phone number gets the help he needs.

[LostButterfly]

next time someone talks to him, they need to convince him to come home or at least meet up with a family member... maybe he needs money? or something that would be enticing to him that he would want to meet. once u meet, u gotta try to get him help or something!!
it sounds to me that he is at the end of his rope & is very possible that he's gonna keep using til he overdoses, or try to end his life. Not to be harsh, but its reality of an addict who can't see any light at the end of the tunnel. He needs help! He may hurt himself! And u said he called his mom & already sold his SUV & said the only thing he hasn't lost yet was his life... well he very well may be thinking of taking that away too! Try to help him, I know its hard & u have no idea how, but gotta keep trying!!

Good luck!!

[Some_life1976]

I am so happy someone has heard from him. your right all you can do now is pray and hope he calls for help soon my thoughts are with you

[dominosarah]

I am so glad that he called his mother.  I hope he finds his way......Please take care of yourself.          sara

[DeltaRedd1984]

He finally called his mother last night and told her that he was beyond help.  He sold his SUV and told her that the only thing he has not lost yet was his life.  We are all very frighten for him.  The way I see it, he is either going to get on his knees and ask the God of his understanding for help or he is going to continue down the road that he is currently traveling.  My only thoughts today are how deep does his rabbit hold go.  He has a phone number to call if he wants help. All I can do now is to pray for him that he will be relived from his pain and suffering.