anyone up?

[HollyCat416]

Estranged husband was rushed to the hospital by ambulance this afternoon.  He's been binge drinking over 40 oz a day for 10 days straight and taking percs, oxys, valium and ativan.  He was admitted at 2pm, I saw him at 8pm.  The nurse told me that he would definitely be there for a few days.  When I asked what would happen if he ripped the tubes out and tried to leave, she said they would restrain him and sedate him.  At 3:20 am, he called from a cab.  He had left the hospital because they wouldn't give him any meds.  He showed up at my house ten minutes later.  The hospital did not even call me to warn me that he had "escaped".  I had to give him money to leave.  No question here.  Just have no one to talk to.

[HollyCat416]

i think i help him more for myself more than anything...and i only help him when he's on these crazy alcohol benders.  When he is just taking his percs and oxys, we don't even address the issue...because then, he can still function and spend time with the kids.  They don't know the difference....he's been addicted to the pills since they were born.  I help him get off the bottle because if I don't I won't be able to sleep at night...I have to be able to live with myself.  The pills?  I can't help him with that and he won't stop. I just want my kids to have a dad, no matter how clouded his vision and thinking are.  At this rate, they won't have one for long.  With my luck, the stress will kill me first.

[Teetime4u]

That is true unless you are living the addiction you can't understand it. I don't know how many times people has told me what they would do.. Considering they don't even know an addict, they honestly don't get it!!

[HollyCat416]

thank you...this forum has been extremely helpful...no one else in the outside world can even begin to comprehend addiction....i know, i was on the outside world and it has taken me years to understand it and i'm still learning

[Teetime4u]

That is a good thing that you are keeping up the good front for the kids, but honestly how much longer can you do this? I am the mother of an addict who also refuses help! I know the rollercoster ride you are on. Its time to put on the break and get off that ride for your sake and the sake of the kids.
  I know you want to help him, he is the father of your children. But you can't he doesn't want it. Let him go take cate of those kids and yourself and hopefully he will wake up and decide. Unless he does you are just helping him be an addict. He knows you will help him. Why quit?? Think about it I am here if you need me. Pm me anytime.
  God Bless Tee

[hiskidd]

Hey HC. I'm praying for you. You've found a good forum with good people. Don't ever feel like you are "bothering" anyone. Praying for you and your family. David

[HollyCat416]

Thanks for asking...I am a wreck inside but putting up a pretty good front on the outside for the kids.  Don't know how long I can keep this up.