help for my son

[jsmom718]

Hi All, I have been reading many of the posts here. I stumbled across this forum while searching for something else but so happy that I did. My son (21) has recently admitted to me (although I knew for a couple years) that he is addicted to Oxycontin. I just don't know how many ml a day he is taking. His life recently spiraled out of control and he is left to almost nothing now. I thank God for that because now he wants to change. Basically the only way to go from here is up.
Anyhow, he wants to get off the drugs. He has planned that he is going to stay at my house during his WD because he cannot hang out with his friends during that time. His plan is to use Methadone for a few days. He states he needs someone to regulate the dosage so that he is not tempted to take more than the recommended dosage. I am nervous about it because I don't know what to expect. Is he going to get violent with me? Are the chances of him getting addicted to Methadone too great? Many posts have helped ease some of my anxiety about this but anything you can offer would be great. I have also noted some alternatives in this forum to Methadone. What do you think? Thanks for your help

[jsmom718]

He gets anxiety and that is probably the worst of it. He is still taking the xanax but he is only taking 2mg a day but he really would like more. I definitely do not want that to be another dependency nor does he so we agreed on quarters 4x a day. He's hanging in there.
Thank you for asking.

[dominosarah]

How are things going today?

[jsmom718]

Thank you for the heads up. I will be watching for it. He had a detox method done through biofeedback and he is taking a lot of vitamins and doing a clean start program for detoxing the organs. So far he has done great but great for someone who is going through withdrawls, not totally normal or anything. His spirits are up and he is working on his project (outside in the sun, which also helps because he is sweating so much) and basically cannot quit talking because he is so excited to be alive at this point. I will be praying that the next week will not be too bad but as with all my prayers, I have prayed that God will give him peace and not too much pain but just enough pain so that he remembers and will not go back to it.
I hope your wife and son are doing well. Thank you for your prayers and I will continue to pray for you as well.
Thank you,

[dominosarah]

I know how hard this is for you and it is heartbreaking.  I wish i could tell you that this was just a nightmare but i cant.  Hopefully your son will get into a recovery program of some sort.  You can have your son back, even better than before but it will take alot of work on his part.  This isnt hopeless~~~~~~sara

[jsmom718]

You know, I received a lot of different opinions during this entire process mainly because everyone is different and what works for one person may not necessarily work for someone else. Ya, my head was spinning from talking to so many people with different opinions. I was not looking for someone to justify the methadone on that day as I had decided against mixing the two at that time. The reason I called the hotline was because my son was going nuts and wanted to throw in the towel. I wasn't sure I was handling it right and I wanted to get advice on what to do. it was not about searching for someone to tell me what I wanted to hear.
As far as what I want to hear: I want to hear that this is all a big nightmare and my straight A, honor roll all his life son never made a decision to become a junkie and in fact went to college as planned and never really pawned or lost everything he ever owned in his life for the sake of getting high. I want to hear that no matter what, everything is going to be ok and that I don't ever have to worry about him making this stupid decision ever again. Still not hearing what i want to hear. Instead I am trying my best to do the right thing, to help my son as best as I know how without trying to be an enabler or codependent to him. I sought out advice because I have not had experience with this before and I so desperately did not want to screw it up. I waited until he came to me and he was ready. That is all I have to hang on to. but it has nothing at all to do with me asking for help so that I can hear what I want to hear.

[gnarly_1]

HI Im so happy your son dident leave and you found someone to put your mind at eaze
im also happy your sone is done with the methadone after only 40 mg ...the real detox will start when he goes without the methadone that has been holding him over to ward off the withdrawals...it should have softened the blow from the oxy but just be ready for him to go threw some withdrawals about 2 days after he discontinues the methadone...the detox process will take a week or so after the methadone clears outr of his system I hope and pray he does well with it narcotic free....keep posting we all want ot see your family make it out of this mess good luck and God bless......Gnarly