What can i do??

[twocanfriday2]

hello, I have a boyfriend of 2 years who has a minor oxycoton addiction. He is a really good liar and its hard for me to tell if hes telling the truth. I confronted him about the pills (he smokes them) and he says hes going to try to stop. He tells me that he isnt completely addicted and that its all in his head, and that he just likes the feeling, but is not physically addicted to it. He has stopped for a good week and a half but has relapsed. He wants me to help him but im not completely sure how. I know that hes not a full on addict so i dont think rehab is the answer. Can anyone help me figure out what i can do to help him overcome this issue? Since he has stopped he is taking about 5mg of methadone to calm him, is that helpful or is it just substituting one thing for something else?

[DrewBoy7]

I just read your post and im a Oxcycotion and oxcycodone addict for 2 straight years I started off the same way! I would lie to my wife everyday about BEING HIGH-MONEY-EVERYTHING! It got so bad that I would wake up and could not fuction without it and it was on my mind ALLDAY were can I get my next score and my life was depending on it to fuction! I came to the conclusion that if I dont get help my life is over! PERIOD! I also have a 9 yr old Boy! So I sighned up to a Suboxene program and im 7 days clean! From going everyday to having to have it to wow my life is back to normal for now! It is a power struggle cause YES I do think about it everday! But my sub is taking that away! There are many sighns to see if he is starting to be an addict! Moodswings(mornings) pay attention to what he is doing at all times! Check his phone often! WHERE IS HIS MONEY GOING!!! theres lots of stuff that you can do!! I really hope that he can control this because it WILL take over your HOLE life!! Stay strong and work w/ him not to continue!! You might be the only person that can make this happen!! My wife did it for me!! Make sure you tell him often that this WILL take over his mind and body, and that YOU ARE  here for him and it might destroy your relationship if it doesnt stop!! Good luck and I hope I could help!! DrewBoy7

[worried878]

agree with lateaugust....in reality..to me anyway..there is no such thing as a minor addiction cos all addictions pack power and can destroy ur life..most of the time people dont fess up to the true amount they use either...be aware of that and he needs to be on the methadone very short term as this is just another problem waiting to happen is he is not ready to be clean....are there any meetings in ur area?  also see if u can get him to post here..sometimes seeing what can happen with abuse can help

[twocanfriday2]

hi. thank you for the comments and advice. When i talk to my boyfriend about the pills he usually just tells me "im still functional, i can go without them, you act like i dont do anything for us and that im just high all the time." he is a good boyfriend, and he does have stuff going for him. He also says that he knows that oxys arent gonna get him anywhere and he doesnt want to be dependant on them and so he wants to stop now while hes not completely swept up in the drug. so i believe that he does want to stop, im just the person that is making him realize what hes doing.

[LateAugust]

I'm sorry  but a minor oxy addiction,  to me,  is like a sterile pregnant woman....   There is a wealth of information on oxy addiction on the internet,  a good first start is to educate yourself as much as possible. This truly is a hideous addiction...... and it is not an easy journey into sobriety.  My child, whom I would give my life for in a nano second,  had a serious oxy addiction,  and for the past few years I have been with her thru every and all treatment you can imagine. I don't think I am exagerating to say it was one of the worst experiences of my life.    She has been clean now for over 4 months,  but the key this time is SHE wanted her life back,  she did it for her,  not for us....  because you can't beat additction trying to do it for someone else.  The addict truly needs to want to be clean more than anything else in their life, and be ready to fight the fight of their life.

I am concerned with the comment re: smoking isn't an effective way to get oxy in your blood stream,  gosh that is contradictory to no less than the 10 doctors or specialist I have seen while my daughter was getting help.   Oxy has a coating for a slow time release when taking orally for generally a 12 hour release...   when you smoke it directly into your lungs you are getting the entire hit in a matter of minutes, hence the od percentage of oxy overdose being so high.

I hope your b/f truly doesnt have an addiction to oxy; however, if he does, you need to go into this with eyes WIDE open.  Good luck dear.

[bobby139]

Sorry to say but he is a addict or he wouldnt relapse and wouldnt need another drug to help him. Your a sweet girlfriend to want to help him so bad but you cant help him till he is ready to help himself. What is the one thing a addict is good at is lying about his problem remember that. When he is ready to really quit we are all her for him see if he will join us and let us help him. good luck

[mr.lucky66]

He may have a minor problem with the physical part of the addiction as smoking pills isn't an effective way to get narcotics into your blood stream but the ritual of the smoking is an addiction just like snorting or injecting is and can be as hard to quit as the dugs themselves.

[dominosarah]

I hate to tell you this but he doesnt have a minor problem.......Yes he is substituting one thing for another.  What do you consider a full on addict?  I have a feeling he is playing this and trying to minimize his addiction.  Being honest with ourselves and admitting we have a problem is the first step.  Bless your heart for wanting to help him but he really has to be the one to do the work here.  Is he getting the Methadone off the streets??  Sorry for all the questions but it will help.  He may not need rehab but he will need some sort of aftercare.  Do you have NA meetings in your area that he would be willing to go to?  Do you give him money for any of the drugs?

[allaboutmary]

Please tell him to stay away from the methadone. That's some nasty stuff to get addicted to.  Don't take offence but........I'm pretty sure he is an addict.  It's one of those things that you either are or you aren't.  If he is relapsing .....he's an addict.  I think there was a time that we all thought we were in control of the pain pills. Once he realizes what a hold the oxy has on him , he will be able to move forward and get clean.  Addicts can't use occasionally.