repairing the social damage...

[mjax024]

okay, i have a question. when you detox yourself i hear your supposed to repair the relationships you f****d up during your addiction. my question is, since i kept this to myself all those years, only my gf and my mother really knew about the extent of my using. i hid it very well, worked in one of the busiest doctor offices in northeastern ohio, pulled 60-70 hour weeks, never overslept, never raised suspicion with my bosses. So...if i don't have any strained relationships, who am i supposed to tell? i quit for me, not for my friends. my friends don't use so not sure if they'd really understand how big of a deal this is. i emailed my best friend who lives 3 hours away and he moved away before the addiction started, so he didn't know til he opens his email. any advice welcome, thanx!!

[10356]

I think we make amends to those things that sit on our conscious.. If you have a clear conscious I'm happy for you.. My family new of my addiction kids/husband I did have to thank them for staying with me and trusting I would find my way out.. I also had to apologize for all the times I put my addiction before them..  Although I thought I was functioning cooking and what not.. I wasn't.. As for friends I knocked them out of the equation long ago.. Looking forward not back.. I wish you well.. lesa

[lmatthews75]

I agree I am not a 12 stepper as well.  I say if you have 0 or 1000 people to say your sorry to then do if you must and move on......I say I cant change my past only become a better person in the future.....I only got thru like step 2 of the whole 12 step thing it just wasnt for me but for some it is needed and helps im not anti 12 step just my views are different.   I say be good to yourself dont beat yourself up you have already done that move on enjoy life...............................

[jeff233]

Im jealous. I f'd up a few good relationships in mt addiction. I dont know who to start with in the repairing process. Good job. Your a good person. You should be greatful for that and work on something else. Have a miraculous day.

[laurel453]

mmm i have enough with not f**** up any one from now on :). ....apart from this, you are talking about the 12 steps, right ?

well, i am not a follower but i would care about anything past only  if it can be mended  ( for addicts or not ) and   having forgiven yourself and the others and  being focused more in present and future, this would be my advice  ( for addicts or not ) .