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[HELPLESS30]

hello, i have been reading this forum for a while and have finally found the nerve to post a question.  i have been taking hydrocodone for 2 yrs. and now it is time to stop.  i have three very young children and i am afraid to go tru withdrawals (i am a stay-at-home-mom)  and not have the energy i need to keep up with everything. actually i am just scared of everything about this problem.  can i stop doing this and take care of my children while i stop.

[HELPLESS30]

we'll i told my husband in a letter what was going on and his answer was is this really the last time (not very helpful to say the least) but i really do need his support hopefully he will come around.  i am very thankful for all the support i have received already from all of you

thanks everyone

[windowsca]

My heart goes out to you.  It is so sad that so many while refusing to educate themselves on how best to help someone they love get through this, just makes maore demands.  Have him read "Fighting Relapse" from the health pages - print it out and leave a little note that you're so sorry, but you NEED his help.  That should soften him up - guys love to be needed.  Don't lie.  If there's anything addicts don't need more of, besides drugs, it's reasons to lie.  Look into acupuncture to help with cravings and pain.  It really does work.  I'm into quotes~ here's yours

“The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.”

Flora Whittemore

You can do this.

[peaceinknowing]

The more you post here on the forums, the more you'll find that you do have people that are right here for you no matter what, giving out any support in which they're able to. This forum was my saving grace on so many levels. The words that people spoke to me, even though at times they come off as tough love, spoke volumes. My husband was VERY supportive throughout my "at-home detox" but of course, he had to work a lot as well. This is when I'd venture onto my laptop, and let me tell you... My laptop has NEVER been turned on for so many days all at one time.

I've followed a lot of Nauty's posts here on the forum, and she has hit the nail on the head on so many different occasions with me as well as other members here. Listen to the advice she has given you along with the others. I completely agree with her when she says that sometimes when other people get clean, they;re placed upon a pedastool and don't even realize it. However, I also agtree with the other member here on this thread that's stating to you that you must get clean with your husband and be honest with him that you really haven't stopped, although he thinks that you have. Without the full trust between the two of you, there will be no help involved.

[NautyOne]

I agree with Brokbak.........He needs a memory refresh about his stint in rehab, and how you stood behind him in his time of need.  Sometimes when a person get clean they get on a high-horse and forget where they came from.  I notice a lot when people stop smoking .....all of a sudden they cop-a-tude against the very people they enjoyed lighting up with.  A simple reminder and the right words can humble and ex-addict, smoker, drinker....whatever.  

I would have a talk with him, and ask for his support now.

Best of luck, and keep us posted.

Luv,
Nauty.............

[broknbck]

well it sounds like your husband is putting more stress on you. maybe you should just come clean with him. he must remember what it was like. hah- remind him. this is the rest of your life we are talking about and he is your husband, right?

and yes, you will feel better when it is all done. i feel like i never touched a single pill ever now. and it has been like that since a couple of months after quitting.

[HELPLESS30]

thank you so much for getting back to me so quickly!!! i was not taking a definite amount but of course it escalated over time. i took no more than 3-5 10mg or 7.5 a day. my husband knows about this but thinks i have stopped already.  i think he feels that i should just stop and not whine about it so he does not have to be bothered with taking up the slack eventhough he went thru an addiction in rehab and i stood behind him 100%. at that time i knew nothing about any sort of drugs or addiction but i researched so i would be better informed. i really don't think that i can do this without support.  what can i expect and will i ever feel better after all this.  lately i spend my days wondering how i am going to get more and i hate that. is this normal.
sorry i am so spacey about this but i have a jumble of questions in my mind and they all come pouring out.

[NautyOne]

Very doubtful, that's why so many moms like you continue.  I'm not saying its impossible, but you have to "superwoman"  if you got that in you then yes, if you don't then the risk of going back is great.  If you think you can taper, then great!  You still made need some help with the kids even at the end of the taper too?  The only way to know how truly strong you are is to try.  I am not saying that anyone with the extra added factor during withdrawal (kids) because they find it too difficult is weak, its a rough road (withdrawal) you may find the kids to be a great distraction, because keeping busy is sometimes a good thing, but for others its just too much.

I tapered and if I had maybe had more distractions other than the couch and a tv....It may not have been so bad, otherwise .....plan a day to quit.  Make sure you get someone on day 2, 3, and maybe even 4.......cry food poisoning and you wont have to fake your symptoms....

Do you have anyone that will be able to watch them for a few days while you recover from your "food poison?"..........that is my best suggestion.

I wish you the best.

Luv,
Nauty.............

[broknbck]

well there is no telling. for some it is easier than others. i had the same kind of addiction and when i would try quitting cold turkey, it was just too hard and no kids to take care of.
so then i did the taper way. my doctor told me it is the proper way to get off of them. you are still uncomfortable but it is bearable. my taper was about 1 month. when i got down to no pills at all , it was not so bad.

if you have someone that could help you out with the kids , that would be great. you want the least amount of demands put on you while you are doing it.
best to you

[Cissy373]

Everybody is different with the WD's but mostly it's like having a case of the flu/cold, but you can do it. Is there anyway you can start to WD from them when someone would be home for a couple of days so you could get through the worse of it?

You NEED to stop them...........just like all of us and it's not easy, but with this forum and all these nice people here you can do it. I go through the WD's every month.........take my pills the first week, then I am out...............so I WD and then start right back the next month, but I am SICK of this............and somehow I am going to beat this.

So hang in there, your not alone here..........and good luck.

Cissy

[Allicat0117]

What dose are you on?