Any ideas

[carla1982]

My husband recently stopped using heroin. He has been trying to sleep while I am at work bc I work friday saturday and sunday. He wants to get out and do something what can I do to keep him busy and help.Where are some good places to go and he also could not eat alot yesterday, that was his 3rd day. What is good for him to eat?

[carla1982]

I will. I am at work now. The joys of jobs. Lol

[dominosarah]

Stick around here and let us know how things are going....I am headed for work now!  Yippee

[carla1982]

Thanks for the help. I just called and he was waking up and he said he was going to go walk outside for a few, he needs to get out and enjoy the weather

[dominosarah]

You wont go crazy!!  Take things one day at a time.  With addicts our actions speak louder than words.  Focus on recovery now, not the what if's as they will drive you nuts.  Your husband has to be responsible for his actions and behavior.  Glad to hear he will be getting a new number.

[carla1982]

That is a good thing to hear. If it wasent for this website I dont know what I would be doing right now. Prob going crazy. I just want him to know that I am there for him but what I am worried about is that if he uses again he wont tell me bc he hid it for so long before. He claimes that he was going to tell me before but he knew that he would hurt me. As far as people I erased all of his numbers out of his phone and I also am going to try and get the number changed asap. He doesnt answer his phone for anybody and he said that he is done with them and I also called the people and told them to stay away or I would call the cops bc they were not going to drag him down. I know that was wrong but they did not mind helping ruin my life and other peoples.

[dominosarah]

Cravings will come and go forever.  That is why we talk so much about recovery care on this forum.  We learn the tools we need to live a healthy clean life.  This will be a life changing process for the both of you.  Most addicts have many demons that we have buried and numbed up and we need to deal with them and let it go.  The more we get to know ourselves the better off we are.  We say alot on here that getting clean is the easy part, staying clean is the hard one.  We have to change our playground and playmates and surround ourselves with clean/sober people.  Getting clean was the best thing i ever did for myself.  After 40 some years i am finally living.  

[carla1982]

He isent under a dr care yet with these. I am trying to get him into one but he has no insurance but he also said that he did not need them so we will see. I am at work today so tomorrow thru thurs I will be home with him to keep him busy. I know that I shouldn't have gotten them for him but I did ask a dr at work and he said that they were okay just not to over do them.How long do cravings last normally?

[dominosarah]

The families of addicts get the brunt end of our addiction.  It's okay to feel the way you do.  There has been a breakdown of trust and that is a big issue for couples.  I would really recommend therapy or NA/AA.  Both of you need to get healthy and start rebuilding your lives.  Addiction doesnt end when the drugs are given up.  Recovery is a slow process.  Be very careful with the Sub as that is also addicting and comes with its own set of issues.  Is he under a doctors care while on this?

Go to the park today and just enjoy each others company.  The fresh air will do you both good.  Vitamins are good.  Our bodies need to be replenished with good stuff!!  Let us know how you both are doing okay?          sara

[carla1982]

I am doing okay. He had been doing it since around oct of last year and just admitted it to me wed night and he went into get help thursday. He couldnt stay there bc he said that all he heard about was drugs and it made it worse. I brought him home and he has done well. I know that I shouldnt have done this but I did get him some suboxone strip (10 of them) and he has only taken 5 since thursday and I am going to help him lowerd down. I know that I am not a dr but I work in the hospital and the dr here said that was okay and to lower him before he became dependant on them. I did look into some meetings for the both of us to go to. It has been a bumpy road for me and him. I honestly think that I have been hurt worse bc the fact that he lied to me for so long and I trusted him.I couldn't believe that he did that. But I am going to help him make it thru. I thought about taking him to the park and I also was going to get him some balloons or a card but I dont know what kind to get. Congrats or what? He started with the stomach pains yesterday and not being able to eat. He ate a little and I got him a milkshake last night. I also looked online and went and got some of the ingredients that were stated to help wd but I got them on the form of vitamins. I just feel so bad for him. I know he did this to himself but nobody deserves to hurt.

[dominosarah]

Congrats to your husband on 3 days clean!!  The more he is up and moving around the better he will feel.  Fresh air and sunshine are good.  Bland foods are usually the best right now, chicken, soup, toast crackers, that sort of thing.  Pudding is also easy to eat along with bananas.  How are you doing thru all of this?  Any aftercare plans for the 2 of you?       sara