what to do

[frazho]

My husband of 32yrs is acting very strange.  It is fightening me.  He has had a problem, so he says, with impotency for 6 yrs now.  He is a chronic alcoholic.  This said, I have accepted this all these years and have adjusted my life.  Now all of a sudden and I mean all of a sudden on Easter sunday my husband has turned into a raging maniac.  I can't change all of this pain, loneliness that I have endured all of these years,  just because he is cured.  I would like to know if this is normal behavior for alcoholics.  After years and years of abuse does ones personality change so quickly?  I have just recently decided to go to school.  Have I threatened him in some way and this is his way of changing me?  I was so frightened that I had to lock my bedroom door, which upset him even more.  We had a long talk and he told me he would cut down his drinking.  Last night he only drank a liter of wine.  Everything went well.
I am scared this is the weekend and monday I start school.  I am 52 years old, I don't want to live my life not be sucked down with his loss of life.  Why would he be suddenly cured of impotency after all these years.  By the way after this happened 6 yrs ago, he never even showed me affection which I thought strange.  Could it be he never had a problem.  I asked him these questions and even asked him if someone at work gave him viagra.  That would not last 3 days though... I am stumped as to why this sudden change.  Please help like I said in the other post I feel like a lamb in a lions cage.  I don't have those feeling for him anymore.  I have gotten used to living like friends for so long.  It is not a normal thing for me.  It is strange but he doesn't get it.  jenny

[JayDiddy]

I am sorry you are going through this. Alcoholism is a progressive disease, meaning it will continue to get worse. He will not be able to "cut down" for long on his own before it get's worse. He needs help and AA is a great resource if HE WANTS IT.

You would be so well served by Alanon. Alcoholism is a family disease. There you will learn tools to help yourself and better your situation. I CANT RECOMMEND IT ENOUGH.

Would you be willing to go to a local meeting? You might first try even to call a hotline and then find a meeting.

Good luck and keep us posted.
Jay

[Friend999]

I can't anser your question, but I wish you the best.

Someone with knowledge of alcoholism will be on to help you in regard to your question very soon, I am sure.