Loss of signifigant other

[catlover8]

My signifigant other recently broke up with me. He thinks I cheated althought I did not. I feel awful, and I am seriously questioning my sobriety. The only reason I haven't used so far is cause I have no sources left. I want to use more than anything. Take this pain away. What do i do? I really loved him, and now I have nothing and I just want to use to make it go away.

[newmanagment]

using will prove nothing for either one of us. the best way to make someone regret leaving you is to stay clean and better yourself. dont do it for him, do it for you. staying clean will and getting your head str8 , and making your life better will show him how much he gave up on. im kinda in the same situation, im divorcing my wife because she cheats and we dont get along. I kno its been hard for me not to use, but I also kno that if i continue to stay sober, get my finances in order, and actually be the old me, she will realize that she lost something good. not that it will matter cuz ill still be gone, but it will make us feel better about ourselves when we get thru one of the hardest times sober! I kno wutcha heart feels rite now, and I also kno how ya stomach hurts and ya almost feel physically ill........ got all them things goin for me rite now. but we can do this, and its not our loss but theirs. keep ya chin up, and much luv

[wishful1]

dont do it. i started usingalmost 3 years ago because me and my boyfriend broke up and it killed me inside. now 3 years later im a addict! im over the guy now, but i still have this horrible cloud with me. whatever u do, just dont turn to pills or whatever u are thinking of using. go to a counseler. if only i could go back in time

[dominosarah]

Im sorry this has happened to you but using is not an option here.  I know you love him and this hurts to the core of our being but without the trust relationships dont usually survive.  He must have some other issues going on and he is blaming you.  You cant change how he is feeling as all you can do is change how you react to the situation.  This may be a blessing in disguise at some point too.  Take this time to focus on you now.....Feel the pain Cat, dont bury it......sara

[10356]

Hi Catlover.. I sort of know the pain you speak of.. although not a break up my family children are moving out..  it hurt as I have begun to realize how much I had depended on them.. I tried drowning my thoughts and the pain in booze but did not make it far as I only felt myself drifting further away.. numbing ourselves does not make it go away.. it makes it worse as addiction feeds on depression.. Take your pain and process it.. get some support and help to put in into context.. we can not run forever for at the end waits our demise.. I wish you Health and Happiness but most of all acceptance.. warmly lesa

[stilltrying1965]

Im really sorry about the break up. But using wont make it go away only numb the hurt you are feeling. Keep your sobriety and stay strong. Plz dont use it will only make things worse Try and be strong for yourself Good luck to ya ,,,,James.

[avisg]

No you dont that will only make you feel alot worse .get into councling of some sort

[cathy5841]

I am sorry you are hurting, but don't let this be an excuse to use. That's where after care comes in. You need local support right now. Do you have an na*aa meeting u can attend?  Or a therapist?  Stay strong!

[catlover8]

I am trying guys. He accused me of cheating when I didn't. I feel so helpless. I did not do it, but here I am being left because of not giving him my cell phone.

[Dadof5kids1973]

Not using will make you a stronger person. I know it hurts now but in the weeks to come it will pass and you can still say you are clean!

[Radiostar55]

Cat, what ever you do don't use You have come to far.  He may get a vision and realize what he gave up..In the meantime when your really down.."Imagine him in a supermarket shoppping NAKED!  Hope that made you smile!

G

[catlover8]

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I just feel like I want the pain to go away. That is the only way I know how to make it go away.

[beatingthis]

Ya know using will not make you feel better, it will make you feel wrose!
Give him some time. I do know how bad it hurts but hang on. If it is meant to be it will.
Please don't use this use.

Hang in there.

Terry

[catlover8]

Also, this feels way worse than detox ever felt. I feel like I want to die or just use.