Everyone has to come to a bottom before they stop using drugs, and if your not a user then you dont get it. He is not himself right now, the drug does the thinking, and for your brother as well. Be glad that this is not the kind of things your children are learning and picking up from him, children only know what they are taught, and thei is being taught like it or not, they know what is going on, whether you think so or not. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. God will not put more on us than we can handle. Know that thru all suffering there is a leason to be learned from all this pain. It is the only way we listen and need god's help. Pray, pray and pray, have your children pray, have your loved ones pray and have your friends pray. It will help GOD said "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." come together and PRAY and god will hear your prayers, and help will be on its way to you and your family.
no one physically takes an adult away from another...your husband went willingly w/the brother......yes u r sadly indeed very co-dependent.Franklin Delano Roosevelt was rumored to have been screwing around w/his secretary for years......his loving faithful strong wife Eleanor was quoted as saying...."No one takes advantage of u without ur consent"!!!! so true and it applies to you!I feel for the children who witness this co-dependent behavior...if u don't break the cycle they will repeat it after u in their relationships later in life.Do u want this????
When there is an addiction in the family the addiction will always win until the person is ready to stop. Please dont take this personal. Both your husband and brother are sick right now. I hope you will get some counseling or go to Alanon. You need to take care of you now......is your brother living with you?