I want to help my daughter deal with her anger and diddapointment of mom

[pamknight]

How can I help my adult daughter to cope with an alcoholic mom who neglected and a banded her

[ibizan]

Thank u for posting good advice!i've been sober/clean now for 28 years.I loved a man in 05 who was clean from cocaine for 3 yrs.He relapsed and began to treat me w/the utmost cruelty and verbal abuse that i tried to weather and guide him to recovery.He wanted no part of it.This was during a time that my dad died,my mom went to the psych unit and later correctly dx'd w/Lewy Body Dementia,and a medical issue w/me plus 2 deaths of my cat and beloved greyhound.I cannot think of him to this day w/any sympathy or kindness...and i don't find that disturbing!Neither should you!the Jewish nation couldn't forgive Hitler!there are many things in life we should never bear.I think of him today w/neutrality and its taken me a LONG time to achieve that!I'm so happy for u that u found a loving man!Hope to see more of ur advice here......we need it!:)

[4slenderthread]

Your daughter would be best served by seeing a specialist for her insecurities and emotional pain. She may need to be on meds as well for her problems. Also, going to Al Anon meetings for support would be another way she could help herself! I was married to a unloving, abusive (mostly mentally) alcoholic for nearly 7 years. Like most alcoholic's, he knew how to hurt people. He was a cruel man. It has been many years ago now and he drank himself to a very early death  ... but I still can't think of him with any kind of sympathy or kindness, which I find disturbing. I'm glad that I got out of the relationship when I did and later remarried a wonderful man! There is hope for your daughter ... but she needs to want that hope and help. It may be hard to come back from the 'edge' - but it isn't impossible, not for those in recovery ... and not for their families. Take care!