help for my dad

[Lalouie]

My dad has been an alcoholic ever since I can remember.  Him and my mom have been off and on for years.  This time though.  When my mom was ready to divorce him, I think some kind of lightbulb came on for him. A little histroy: My dad has been going to aa meetings here and there, but it never helped, maybe cause he wasnt "ready" to stop.  I honestly think that he is ready to quit drinking.  He has joined some local groups and goes to aa meetings at least twice a week.  He is also becoming more involved with family, friends, and volunteer work.  The thing is, it seems like my mom and three younger sisters only want to tear him down, that they dont want to see him succeed.  I think that he needs all of the support he can get and everytime he turns around they are causing more stress for him.  My question is, what all can I do to help him?  I want to see him through this because he deserves this chance.

[boogieman]

hi. j34 gave you great advice. when a person becomes an alcoholic, not only do they become sick, but those close to them do as well. any kind of chemical dependency takes its toll on everyone around, and sadly when the alcoholic gets help, their families and friends often do not. this is due to both ignorance and a stigmatized perception of the condition. the most successful recoveries include both the dependent individual and those that care about him or her. this is the sole purpose of al-anon, just as aa is for the alcoholic or addict. there are lots of online resources available for both, and i would be happy to help you connecting with them if you need assistance.  best wishes,   gm

[j34]

Well that is great that you sound so willing to help your Dad!  a suggestion is al anon.It is a place where people meet who's family has been torn apart by booze. I go there and like it very much. You can not do anything about your other family members but by leading by example,with love,kindness,and tolorance showing your determination to give your father another chance.Resentment is probably a huge part of your families unwillingness to give another chance. This is why I strongly suggest al anon for you and other family members not only to support Dad but to find your own way is this terrible disease of alcholisum,the affects on the family. all the best to you and way to go Dad. I am in recovery to and I jsut took 9 months clean and sober and am loving life.keep your upbeat attitiute Blessings to you and your family