I need to vent

[cell88]

My son is 4 the school says he has autism, they put in a class 3hr a day 4 days a week no ot 30min speech a week and have not let him out to play with the other (aaron plays well with other kids) know I find out to boot that all the lunchs at school have soy witch my son is allergic to. he has been to many drs they say that he has adhd but it to soon to dignoise him because he has a hearing delay, Aaron is a very fast pace kid the more I change things up the better he acts hes biggest prombles are in speech and wanting to get his owne way that you

[cell88]

the diagnosis is for the dr his eeg showed slowing in the frontel lobe of the brain its not a guess its common for ture adhd to show this the problem is the school is not working on what they need to my son did not hear at birth there was nothing they could do it was something kids outgrow so he also has a speech delay the only thing the school is realy working on is to get him to set for circle time I think if I home school him for a year he might be better off. thank you

[Sally44]

If your child does not have a diagnosis of autism, I think you should go and visit his paediatrician and ask for a referal to a multi disciplinary team that has experience of diagnosing autism and also ADHD.  When this has been looked into both you and any school will have a better understanding of what his difficulties are.
Although 4 is young, it is not too young to be in a nursery environment.  But the environment has to be one that he can cope with and if he has autism or ADHD his current nursery/school may not be appropriate.
I am in the UK and our children start school full time at around 4.5 years.  And my own son who is autistic began school at that age.  And no it didn't go well, but that was down to autism and not his age.  
So, if you do decide to pull him, because he isn't coping, you need to get the assessments carried out, otherwise the same thing will happen when you try to introduce him to school again.

[cell88]

thank you you are right its to much hes so unhappy at school i think im going to pull him

[888mom]

I don't see how schools can be qualified to diagnose autism, but they seem to want to.  I am not sure if they get more funding if they have more kids with that diagnosis or not.  Is it a public school or a private school?

They should not be allowed to give him a food he is allergic to.  If you have medical paperwork that you filled out when he started that stated he is allergic to soy and is not to have it, they have to follow your medical directions.  My daughter is allergic to eggs, and they forget sometimes that eggs are in baked goods.  Cookies, cakes, and that sort of thing.  I also know that my daughter reacts negatively to high fructose corn syrup.  She's not allergic to it, but man, she becomes a crazy demon when she has that stuff and is just not herself.  So her directions are no eggs and no high fructose corn syrup.  Teachers in public schools are generally good about following directions because they are used to kids with peanut allergies and that sort of thing.

4 days a week is a lot for a 4 year old to go to school.  Luckily my daughter misses the age cutoff by 1 month, so she'll be 5 for most of the year when she does 4 year old kindergarden which our town does.  If she was a spring birthday I would not send her and hold her back a year.  To me it just seems like too much.  When I was a kid, kindergarden was age 5 and it was a half day and nowadays there is 4 year kindergarden for a half day and 5 year old kindergarden for a full day.  What are we doing to our children?  Are we giving them a chance to play?  A chance to stay kids and learn social and play and problem solving skills?  Or are we just forcing them to memorize and learn to read too early?  Sweden is like the number one country in the world for education -- they consistently test the highest on all the aptitude tests and so forth and they start later.  They start preschool at age 6, and start school at age 7 and are required to attend through age 16, though most continue through age 19 at an upper secondary school before going to college.  

I didn't realize they fed kids lunch during preschool.  My daughter only goes for 2 hours 15 minutes twice per week, but she's only 3.  She's going to go next year for only 2 1/2 hours per week at a private preschool.  No lunch.