Thank you all. Since being diagnosed Zelda's speech has improved and since starting some of our own sensory work with her, her inapporioate behaviors have gone down. Thank you all. I may have to order those autism cards.
What has helped me was to hand out cards that explain what autism is. You can order them from Autism Society. What these people need is education. That really helps. I was very defensive at first too until I realized I can use this as a way to educate people. Good luck! My heart goes out to you.
Hi, my son was diagnosed with sensory integration disorder when he was 4. We started the process when he was 3. During that period, I too was very frustrated. I had a woman I am close with, my husband's cousin, actually argue with me about it. I had another just go at me very matter of factly but in a way that was offputting. Well, I at that time just decided that I wouldn't have heart to hearts about this difficult subject wtih either of these two ladies. One of them---- I've not had a conversation since and my son is now 8 years old!!
What you really need is a warm hug and someone to tell you it will be okay. Your daughter is still the precious little one that you've always loved and she always will be. A diagnosis doesn't define who she is and who she'll become. A diagnosis is the thing that gives you a direction to go in to help her. And help her, you can! Early intervention is AMAZING. They can do such wonderful things for our children these days and you will be amazed at the progress she makes. I promise you. There will be times that you have a set back or a struggle but overall, she IS going to progress.
We are going to have a sensory forum soon here at med help. I'll send you a note when we get it going.
By the way, as I said, my boy is now 8 and is really doing well. He's overcome a lot through intervention. We're still doing OT (which kids LOVE) and work on his sensory issues and work to keep him regulated, but he is functioning very well. Have hope dear. Things are going to be okay. peace
I am just tempted to tell them that if they don't want to support Zelda (my daughter) then they have no business being in her life. I have to push everyone who is not supporting us away. Its not like I made this up, doctors evaluated her. I am not sure where you live but I live in NJ and we went to Children's specilazed hospital. I have been told that they are the best for autism and CHOP is the best for everything else. thank you. its comforting to know that I am not alone
Yes, I definitely get where you are coming from. I'm in the process of getting my 18 month old evaluated for autism and like you, my side of the family has been great but my husband's side, not so much. My MIL also thought having my daughter in daycare would solve her so-called problems. She also tried hard to convince my husband that this was all in our heads. My husband shut her up by asking if she had ever been around an autistic kid. She never had and for these people you mention that do know a kid on the spectrum, they must not know that all kids are affected differently. I think most people also assume that autistic kids can't speak.
As for putting your daughter in daycare I'd think that'd be a bad idea even if it was an option for you. With her sensory and speech issues I'm sure it'd just make her frustrated and upset. With my daughter, she shuts down around other kids, their noise and activity is just too much for her. You know your daughter best, these other people do not. I guess just do your best to not let it bother you. Easier said than done I know, but maybe just continuing to reach out to other families affected by autism will help. Take care, and if you come up with any good come back lines let me know!