Bipolar help 2?

[alaneyn]

I originally posted this message on may 5 and you guys made great suggestions


"I have been married to my husband for two years now, and he told me when he was younger that he was diagnosed with BP. When we first started dating, I did not notice any issues with mood swings. He had been under is parents insurance, and the doctor that he was seeing had him on many meds, and he said that he had just gotten off the meds because none of them worked anymore. My husband had five pounds of medicine left over form the meds he had been taking because the doctor kept switching him to different meds. Once we got marries I started to notice a change in behavior, and then we had a baby. My husband is no longer on any type of medication and his mood swing are getting progressively worse and is constantly in a bad mood. He has never hurt me physically, nor my son, but he does say mean things quite often and I fear this will affect my son. I have tried to open the discussion of possibly him going back on his medication but he says that there is nothing wrong with him and that he doesn't need medicine. I am afraid that that his constant bad mood will begin to affect our one year old. My husband's temper is increasing in size and anger, and I do not want anything to happen that he might regret one day. Any suggestion?"


And now I have something to add to the situation


"Okay, so thank you guys for your suggestions. Another situation has arised. In my years of knowing my husband, I have never once doubted that he loved, and cared for me. But randomly 3 days ago, he turned into a person I dont know. I have never seen him like this before. He has started not coming home to help with our son, and he has told me that he does not want to talk to me, or even see me. I have never been so hurt, and I have experienced some pretty bad moods form him before, but never has he told me he doesnt love me. All of a sudden he tells me he wants to get a divorce, and that he cant remember why he married me. His parents tell me that he has a really life altering episode about every five years, and we were about due for one. Can anybody tell me if they think that this is just an episode, or if he really does hate me all of a sudden. How suddenly, well on monday he brought me a gift, and reminded me how much he loves me, and then on tuesday he told me he hated me and wanted a divorce. Any opinions on this?"

[ILADVOCATE]

It depends out of hand he has gotten. If he is actively psychotic he could be eligible for involuntary psychiatric care. Its not an option I encourage but at rare times its needed. Best to have a family member or friend take him to the hospital. If he is acting in a way that is directly destructive to you there are agencies such as the Mobile Crisis Team that can come to do an evaluation and see if the person needs involuntary hospitalization and even if not direct them to psychiatric care but if it ever got to that point you would be best to leave before contacting them. I would hope it doesn't get that out of hand though. See if you can get other people involved in encouraging him to seek help.

[alaneyn]

Okay when I try to even talk to him he shuts me down, and he told me that there is absolutely nothing wrong with him, and that I just dont know him. I have mentioned his meds, and him going to a psychiatrist but he says that you cant fix him if he is not broken. Before this epsiode (if it is one) he would seem to accept the fact that he had bp and now he says that it is all a load of **** (to put it nicely). what to do?

[ILADVOCATE]

I would say at this point he is psychotic. If he has psychotic breaks at periodic intervals that can happen from say bipolar with psychotic features but only a psychiatrist can provide a diagnosis but at this point he should see one now. When someone has day to day variances of what they think of a person entirely (with nothing else changing) that can be a sign of concern as well. At this point he needs psychiatric help and if he is not willing to accept it it might be best to ask someone to take him to the hospital. It does sound unnerving but long before recovery I needed it and I never did anything this extreme. I went on my own voluntarily but not all people have the self awareness to and that's best where he should be going if he has become that extreme.