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Bipolar boyfriend: verbal abuse or just symptoms of illness?

My boyfriend and I have been together since high school. It's been a handful of years and we now live together in an apartment with our pets, and we have for the last year and a half. I fell in love with him because he is a really sweet and down to earth guy and we just jive so well and our relationship was great at first but bipolar disorder seems to be taking him over. The name calling is almost daily now (today I've been called a lazy **** and a fat cow), he makes me feel like everything is my fault and I'm never good enough. Sometimes (like today) he will be in such a sour mood that he will barely say a word to me the whole day. He will have angry outbursts and threaten breaking up and then everything will be completely fine less than an hour later. I want to be there for him as he only began being treated for Bipolar Disorder less than a year ago and I can see how much he is struggling with it but I suffer from anxiety and depression and am not sure if I can take this constant berading anymore. I know he doesn't mean to hurt me (emotionally, he isnt physically abusive). - I can see it in his eyes when he sees he's hurt me that he never intended to. But I don't know how to not take these attacks personally. They feel so personal. I don't know what to do. I love him so much and I don't want to give up on him/us but I can't keep living like this. Please someone tell me what to do.
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