I'm the mother of a 12 year old boy who was diagnosed at age 5 as having ADHD. Multiple and constantly shifting variations of pharmacotherapy. Very limited success with psychotherapy. He is occasionally violent. He does well academically in school but fails socially. I am his only friend. I am the only outlet of his frustrations. He lost 15% of his bodyweight over the summer and is now 68 pounds.
I am questioning whether this is ADHD or something more serious. Really, I feel like his combination of his symptoms doesn't have a name that can be summarized in an acronym. I feel like his doctors are forcing his pathology into a diagnosis that they understand and can treat according to some predetermined format. It's not working.
I am looking for some kind of residential facility that could observe him over a period of time and offer recommendations that would actually serve my boy rather than some protocol that serves some majority. I have resources, and I'm just not getting any guidance that's worthwhile.
Does anybody know of such a place that they can recommend?