I'm wondering what happened with this. What a hard thing to deal with. I agree that benzo's cause a whole host of issues. Are you in the United States? I list my husband under my hippa paper work so that he can talk to my doctor. My doctor has never called my husband but I guess she 'could' and my husband could call them. Basically, it means that they can legally speak about my health. I think you need to bring up your worry to the provider. What about a chronic medication to control her mental health symptom?