I'm tired!

[frecklepie]

My husband has been diagnosed with BPD and post traumatic stress disorder.  He does not believe that he has either, although he has taken a variety of meds. in the past to treat his symptoms of anxiety, depression, and chronic insomnia.  He has not taken anything for years though.  Ultimately he is a good man but I must say that living with him is a bit of hell on Earth.  I love him and try to pour out large doses of compassion, but after ten years, I am exhausted and sucked dry.  I worry about the effects this will have on our kids and no longer know what to do.  Help!?

[Meagan123]

I would be nervous about your children because they are being affected.  I grew up with parents which had disorders and I ended up with Bipolar disorder 2, Which I have the mood swings but no mania...  Your children are being affected.....   I started to take Lamictal and I have been great...  Have hope and at this point do what best for the kids not for your husband,...  He needs to see a therapist and get the right medicine.  Your children should also be seeking help just so they feel better and can talk to someone from the outside.  

[rudyk]

i have been married 28years and husband was also diagnosed months ago with bpd and post traumatic stress...on top of dealing with the disorders he has also had an affair so i am dealing with alot and i know how you feel.  he was in inpatient treatment this summer but unfortunately i do not see much of an improvment.

[Stellaria]

I would agree with Venora Moonwind that you can't fix this on your own, your husband has to do his part. It's sad, but you need to think of yourself and your children first.

I'm saying this as one who has bipolar herself. My husband loves me endlessly, but I still have to be the one to take my meds, go to therapy, do all the little things that are necessary for me to be ok, he can't do it for me.

I'm not a strong believer in ultimates but in these situations I think it's sometimes necessary to put your foot down hard and demand a change. For his own best.

[Venora Moonwind]

I think my husband must feel that way about me .Unforunatly untill your husband comes to terms with his illnes there is little you can do. I was given the option to get help or else So I got the help I needed. You may have to do this with you husband to help him get the help he needs.
You do need to put yourself first so you are able to care for your children. You are right to worry about this as this affects them as well.Do what is right for you.
I will say my hubby has stood by me through the good bad and ugly. But ultimately it was up to me to make the changes needed.
you are in my prayers as well as your hubby and children.
Love Venora