tres1965

[tres1965]

My Mother decided to 'cause me pain AGAIN today. She is Bipolar as well. She got a bee
in her hornet & told me to pack & move my stuff out of storage, & gave me a week to get it
done. Of course I can't lift ANYTHING due the surgery. So this was impossible. Thank God
for great friends, they did it for me. Then she cut off my internet (we share the same account
even though we maintain different homes. I don't have storage except for 1 closet, 'cause I
live in an apartment. She also lied to my friends about things that were none of their business.
I am so TIRED of this. Sadness, Pain, & frustration. For years I have watched her push the
lines of daughter/Mother. She hates, & that is a soft word my Daughter, in fact she is cruel
to her. So, I have distanced myself from her. But, on the other hand I want to be a good
Daughter. But great to my Daughter, as her needs come 1st. I know I'm ranting, but geez, how
much can one take without crashing due to stress? I need someone to identify if possible?
Thanks

[Minty737]

Wow, sounds like life is difficult with her. Have you tried confronting her with all of these facts calmly? I dont know if I could do that, but if its possible, it may help her to see she is being unreasonable.

Obviously she needs to get back in touch with her pdoc, if you cant convince her, for whatever reason, can you talk to your Dad and get him to take her? If she does spiral out of control it sounds like shes taking everyone with her.

I dont have many other suggestions sorry, being young I dont really have experience with dealing wiht my parents on that level yet. Maybe a friend can help you?

[tres1965]

Wow, my Mother is crashing. There is nothing I can do about it either, considering our relationship at this time. I am not sure I even want to, I am just tired of having to maintain
her 'moods' & watch out for my needs. She is off meds, not done by a p-doc but she says
she doesn't need them...yah right!
She cries ALL the time, hasn't let my Dad away from her side, (very controlling), tries to
have complete control over the $$$. Can't stop eating. She 'grazes' all night...
VERY mean & moody. Any suggestions of how I can help without being a parent to my
parent?