new relationships

[lostoneself]

So I went on an unofficial date that a friend i think was trying to hook us up...so anyways it occured to me that after the last relationship that I feel that i should warn the next one about being bipolar so that if that is something they dont think they could handle then its earlier instead of years down the road.  So has anyone felt this way and what did you do?

[Minty737]

Honesty is important in a meaningful relationship. Do not tell someone too early on, while you are in the dating scene, because they dont know you yet, and may not understand. However as soon as it progresses from dating into a relationship I believe it is important that the partner knows.

I do not think it is such a big deal as the others make out, that its something so private you keep from someone you are in a long term rship with...that to me is very wrong. Communication, understanding and many things like that are key to good relationships. Privacy is OK but secrets are not. Something that can have such a large affect on how things work out is somethign that needs to be discussed.

Just be sensible, you should know when it is right to tell them. (in a normal mood anyway). Perhaps you should give yourself some set criteria to wait for before telling him. eg. Are we dating or in a rship? ask him.

~Minty~

[hrt3105]

i agree , i dont think it should be made a issue of to early, if it looks like its going somewhere in the future then yeah you need to let them know whats going on. Full disclosure may sound good but it needs to be something that comes with time not just because you have bp. Alot of people may disagree with me but think back on the reaction of alot of peoplewhen thery found out you were bp.Initial response is that persons crazy, that was even my own response to me , people often attack what they fear so use good judgement as to when to tell

[SilentRage]

Well in my opinion I would not tell anyone just yet especially so early on. I think they will use it against you down the line. Like I said it just my opinion and others that have been in relationships for alot of years maybe able to help you a little a better. As for me I am not into full disclosure.