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[disasterfullbeauty]

i dont know what to do any more , thing are now .....i dont even have words for how i fell about the state of my life , i have left my home and abusive boyfriend and dont know what to do any more , overwhelmed and alone with no idea what to do i am struggling. i still have no medical insurance and dont know where to turn for help, i am now staying with friends none of which understand what i am going thru and have no idea how to help or justdont have the ability to do so, so i turn to any body on this forum willing to guid me in the right direction , heres the main prolem ,i am so co-depentent it is sickening, nothing short of holding my hand thru every little step seems to be the help that i need , yes i know thats pretty much impossible but it seems that is the only way i am going to get myself on the right track, i had a friend once that was very sick , he found an advocasy program that did exactly that, they handled everything u could imagine , from filing out the neccesary papers to get insuance , then sos.sec., made his apointments for him provided transpertation , everything they even came to his house for all the appointments , ...he is now passed away and i cant ask him what the name of that program was or get a phone number or anything , i know that everything will get better for me if i can just manage to find that type of program to help me but have no idea how to do so or where to start . i just need insurance so i can provide current med. documentation to ssi once i get a stable income i can get a place of my own and beggin to get propwer health care and take my life back , but as it is now , my life is a wreck and i am overwhelmed and lost and cant seem to get any further than knowing that i need to get the insurance and ssi doing anything to makenthat happen just seems to be too much for me to handle. i know that sounds absolutely rediculouse and just lazy and i wish that that was the problem but its not , im struggling with codependancyand everything is just overwhelming .....somebody please help , ....if there is anybody that knows of any kind of help available in the mesa , arizona area i would love the information , thanks for listening and your responses are greatly appriciated

[AZHR]

I noticed Selma referred you to an Arizona site.  If you do live here, there are many, many Mental Health councils in the Valley.  Contact one near you & ask for help.  If you should have any thoughts of harming yourself, present to St Luke's in Tempe;  I used their services for many of my patients when I was still working.  Also, contact AHCCCS right away & ask for Emergency help.(Not the Emergency AHCCS plan for illegal immigrants, just that you need help right away.)
Stay with us here on this site.  You are not alone.  We are here to be your friend as you walk this journey.

[Resa181]

You mentioned that you are co-dependent and you left an abusive relationship....congrats on leaving...there should be a mental health association in your area that can provide u with counseling / assistance / referral services are no or very low costs to help you get on your feet.  The will give you help applying for emergency food stamps as well as any medical assistance available to you.  Also if you will contact the Social Security Administration Office in your area you can apply for Disability or SSI.  You can qualify for Disability if you have a work history that entitles u for benefits or SSI benefits.  Either way you just have to prove a disability that is expected to last 12 months and if you cant afford medical exams SS will send you to exams.  Hope this helps.

[Elisaandbucky]

We are happy to be of support to you at this very difficult time. Selma is the knowledgeable one with things of the medical nature. Other people on the site are familiar with treatment options. I will just say that I will think of you and your struggles.

First, you are a BRAVE girl to be able to leave an abusive relationship. That is no small accomplishment. For that reason alone, I believe that you are not as co-dependent as you may believe. You have many real obstacles to face, and what I can offer is a prayer for your continued strength. When I am especially contemplative, I get to wondering. Wouldn't it be a great thing if all those who suffer from this crazy condition could be together in one place for even one day? If that could happen, I know that you would have many arms of support around you.

[Elisaandbucky]

She has found the right place for answers and guidance, and your kind words will comfort her. Selma, We are all blessed with your knowledge, love, and concern. I can only write to send comforting words, and I will do so. I pray she can find strength in the encouragement and support of this community.

[selmaS]

  Hi...knowing where your issues lie is the first step in overcoming them....each time you feel you need someone else remember that you do not...you can do this...I just googled the area you are in and got this link...check it out they may be able to advise  you on medical ins and other things you need help with.

http://www.advoconnection.com/locations/health-advocates-arizona.htm


Is your family close by that you can move back  home ?

  Many with Chiari do have anxiety issues which may be adding to your co-dependent issues,....so try to remind yourself it is only Chiari....how you feel does not mean that is how you have to respond.

hang in there  you are not alone <3