Hi and welcome to the Chiari forum.
Finding the right Dr is key....and as I suggested to the above new poster that using the list of Drs we have in the Health Pages can help u with a starting point in researching Drs...as I mentioned these lists r not meant as a referral...just as help in getting started.
http://www.medhelp.org/health_pages/list?cid=186
There r Drs listed for CA in the Kaiser system.....and please note u may have to travel to get to a dr well experienced with Chiari and related conditions.
With some of the symptoms u mentioned it is possible u have a syrinx...so do be sure they rule that out by doing MRI's on ur complete spine not just ur cervical spine.
And speaking of the cervical spine and having a reversal of the lordosis, I wondered if u were ever in a MVA? WHip lash can cause this to happen....and I had it too, this can cause much of the pain and issues u r dealing with as well.....so do make sure they check u for all related issues and try to treat some of these issues to see if some of ur symptoms lessen.