I don’t know why you would want to get her tested. I don’t believe every childhood issue needs to be diagnosed or drugs. If she is bright and happy, I don’t think she has a problem. I know part of my little girl’s problem is that she is so secure in knowing that she is loved and looked out for that she just spaces a lot of the daily grind. And is that really so bad? I do make her clean up her messed and she has to be responsible for her book, clothing, homework, etc. And yes, it is a daily effort on all our parts and is does get aggravating sometimes. However, I am confident that when she is older she will overcome her flightiness as well as maturity with constant training and continuous support. The reason I feel this way is that I was just like her when I was 11.
I have a 12 year old daughter that has all of the problems listed. She does have ADHD and she does much better after she takes her medicine. She is on 54 mg. concerta daily and it really helps her. I worry about her future. She is very social, happy, beautiful, and has a great personality. People are attracted to her because she always laughs and haves fun regardless of how much trouble she will be in later. She went to activity late recently and she danced every dance. I am so amazed that this post has only been about girls so far.
We have the same situation and are thinking of having her tested for ADD (no H involved). She is 11, one grade accelerated, but has no organizational ability at all. She leaves swimsuits all over town, her books all over school, never has a pencil, strews clothes everywhere, leaves her backpack in anyone's car, doesn't almost ever know where her shoes are, forgets her lunch, never follows through, but is a great student, is star in many theatre productions (never forgets her songs), and takes great care with her clothes'/appearance (even though she can rarely find what she wants to wear). We do fines and lists relative to chores and clean-up but don't know what to do otherwise. I'm surprised no one's said ADD yet (above). It seems like she just forgets to pay attention in the middle of stuff--like halfway to her locker, etc. What else could it be if not ADD? I'm only afraid to have her diagnosed because they'll want to put her on drugs...
OMG! You just described my 11 year daughter almost to a "T". my daughter gets straight A's without breaking a sweat. But she is so unorganized, and even worse this school year, as there is more books and papers plus they started the "switching" classes schedule this year. Her teachers tell me she is often digging in her backpack looking for whatever assignment needs to be turned in; dumping all the papers and trash and whatever she has in her backpack to find the assignment. When she does find the assignment, of course it is all crumpled and sometimes torn in places. The only difference my daughter is a great writer and is actually writing for the school newspaper or bulletin or whatever you want to call it.
Mine has also "always been like this". When she was younger we called her TAZ or PigPen {off the peanuts characters} because she would come in a clean room and somehow, just walking thru it leaving a trail of trash and destruction. {And I am only exaggerating a little bit} She comes home from school and by the time she walks out of the living room, she has left trash from her pack, books and papers, shoes, and/or socks {never in the same area--one shoe is on the tv, the other across the room under the coffee table, one sock under the couch and the other somewhere on the floor}. She also has clothes in every single room of the house, still can’t figure that one out.
I have tried many many times to organize her. Folders, planners, stickers, all types of backpacks {which she ends up tearing somehow}, purses, wallets. And still just recently at last PTA, her teacher tells me the exact same thing about how unorganized she is and actually during lunch sat her down and tried to reorganize her.
As much as I would like to blame this on anything, I don’t believe it is any kind of chronological behavior. They are just brilliantly messy. Every day I remind her to clean up after herself. I am convinced that by the time she is 20, she will have this down to second nature. Someone once said that the higher the IQ, the lower the common sense. I don’t feel like it is anything to be worried about, common sense as well as organizations are learned behaviors. However brilliance is not. You seem to be doing everything you can, just continue what you are doing. You even done more then I have thought to do {lists on the desk is great}
Good luck to you and your daughter. I am sure it will all work out with age and maturity.
Teach her mnemonics a nd if you have a copier teach her to write everything down regardless of sequence. Save it. print it out and cut it out and switch the paragraphs around.
If it's any comfort I think Steven King or Hemingway supposedly had the same problem.