12yr old girl emotional/social behavior

[mother26kids]

My daughter figits alot, stares, cries when being talked to, says i dont know all the time, wont talk, tries to blame things on others at her own fault and sounds conviencing too. She is a loner and I dont know how to get her to open up she doesnt act like a 12 yr old more like a nine yr old not sure what to do. Getting worse the older she gets Please help

[margypops]

It is a well known fact that young teens often go through a moody phase its part of going into puberty, I expect if you ask the Doctor he may say something similar. In my opinion  it doesn't mean she has any disorder but no doubt he will know .. I also asked previously about any siblings as some times there is upsetting rivalry goes on that a parent is not aware of it .

[jdtm]

You claim that you don't know how to "get her to open up".  If so, is there someone else who might be able to "reach" this child - an older friend, a trusted relative (as a grandparent), a teacher or counsellor, someone from her church or athletic/activity organization, etc.  

It is also possible that your daughter might be suffering from a mood disorder as depression (or some other emotional issue).  If you think this might be a possibility, then a visit to the family doctor might be wise.  The fact she is a loner could indicate this.  Perhaps someone else on this board might have more insight into this situation than I have ....

[margypops]

Has she siblings what are their ages ,does she get on okay with them or is there rivalry? you say she blames things on others may I ask for an instance and who she would be blaming ..Fidgeting is something children do a lot ..when she cries what is it she would be crying about what talking would there be ?