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13 yr old boy
this child is good at school, getting good grades, but is acting a total magot in class, he is also hanging round with a bunch of guys,how do we get him away from them????? from a lad that used to play all sports an hip hop to doing nothing,????
worse case scenario military academy. even if he is getting better now, he could get worse, and that could be a sign of bipolar disorder. if so then he needs therapy and perhaps medication.
don't stress over it, but don't ignore it either.
don't stress over it, but don't ignore it either.
tks for your reply, we have just started him in kickboxing, didn't want to go, but loved it, 2 evenings aweek, an the school football trainning is starting back next after school, hopefully he'll go to that, his attitude does carry over to school hence he is on report, his year head shook his hand this evening on his good behavior, so hopefully this is the beginning of something new, as I said he grades are very good, 3 tests this week an 100% in science, as you said becoming a teenager, an new school is lot to comprehend at once, so hopefully things will settle down tks again.
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So he has gone from being at the top of his level to starting over at the bottom. Sometimes that can cause a kid to retreat for awhile. Or since he is now in a new situation - is seeking attention.
And as AHP84 mentions - some of this does have to do with becoming a teenager. I would definitely talk with his teachers and see how he is now doing in class. Has he began to conform to their rules? Many times that attitude at home does not carry over to school - they just don't allow it.
It is very difficult to get him away from his friends because he will see them all day long at school. The best possible action is to try and get him involved in sports again. Of course, that would be even easier if one of his friends also was involved. But essentially, any after school activity, is something that you want to get him into. Even if it is something like martial arts is a private studio setting.
It sounds like he is fairly intelligent if he is getting good grades? He may be using that intelligence to get his way with you. Don't let that happen. Do have firm, fair guidelines and enforce them while he is at home. And make sure that he does not hang out all afternoon after school gets out with his buddies. That is breeding ground for trouble. Best wishes.
And as AHP84 mentions - some of this does have to do with becoming a teenager. I would definitely talk with his teachers and see how he is now doing in class. Has he began to conform to their rules? Many times that attitude at home does not carry over to school - they just don't allow it.
It is very difficult to get him away from his friends because he will see them all day long at school. The best possible action is to try and get him involved in sports again. Of course, that would be even easier if one of his friends also was involved. But essentially, any after school activity, is something that you want to get him into. Even if it is something like martial arts is a private studio setting.
It sounds like he is fairly intelligent if he is getting good grades? He may be using that intelligence to get his way with you. Don't let that happen. Do have firm, fair guidelines and enforce them while he is at home. And make sure that he does not hang out all afternoon after school gets out with his buddies. That is breeding ground for trouble. Best wishes.
Unfortunately, this sounds pretty typical of a teen to me. I could tell you almost the same thing about my 17 year old sister.
She has gone from a fun-loving, interactive, mature, level-headed, incentive-driven young teen to...
a completely flakey, fashion-driven, shallow, time-wasting, grades falling, acting-brain-dead-valley-girl--"like, totally, you know." (insert flick of the hand and bob of the head with a slight eye roll).
It's pretty frustrating and disappointing, but there's not much I can do about it other than be around to help her and guide her when she eventually realizes a lot of the mistakes she's making. We are half sisters who share the same mother, who passed away last March. I'm sure that has quite a bit to do with my sister's behavioral and severe maturity regression along with some other really bad influences I can't control in her life. We have a nearly 11 year age difference, so I've always been more of a parental figure than a sibling to her, since our mom raised us for most of our years as a single parent.
I've had to learn the hard way in this last year that dealing with teenage problems is more or less hands-off until they come to you; you can't take the direct control with a teen like you can with a younger child. I'm told they eventually figure out their mistakes and if they know they can depend on and trust you, they come around to readily receive your guidance after they make some huge mistakes. I'd offer more advice but I'm kinda right there with you sharing much of the same frustrations.
She has gone from a fun-loving, interactive, mature, level-headed, incentive-driven young teen to...
a completely flakey, fashion-driven, shallow, time-wasting, grades falling, acting-brain-dead-valley-girl--"like, totally, you know." (insert flick of the hand and bob of the head with a slight eye roll).
It's pretty frustrating and disappointing, but there's not much I can do about it other than be around to help her and guide her when she eventually realizes a lot of the mistakes she's making. We are half sisters who share the same mother, who passed away last March. I'm sure that has quite a bit to do with my sister's behavioral and severe maturity regression along with some other really bad influences I can't control in her life. We have a nearly 11 year age difference, so I've always been more of a parental figure than a sibling to her, since our mom raised us for most of our years as a single parent.
I've had to learn the hard way in this last year that dealing with teenage problems is more or less hands-off until they come to you; you can't take the direct control with a teen like you can with a younger child. I'm told they eventually figure out their mistakes and if they know they can depend on and trust you, they come around to readily receive your guidance after they make some huge mistakes. I'd offer more advice but I'm kinda right there with you sharing much of the same frustrations.
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