2 kids

[tonyrob]

i am a man that i cant live  with my wife anymore i have 2 kids 4 years old boy and 2 years old girl i need to know how can i treat my 2 kids without effecting them,
its been 2 months now that i left home and i am seeing my kids once a week but last sunday something happen with my boy he went crazy and he wanted to come with me instead of going with his mom he started shouting daddy i want to go with you daddy please come and sleep home and now i am going crazy i was so touched about what happened i need to know what shall i do how can i treat them till now they dont know about our seperation and i dont think they will understand since they are still young . do you think if i go and sleep over in a seperate room once a week a good idea my ex doesnt mind .
PS: excuse my english its my 3rd language.

[tonyrob]

she lost the vaccination books for both kids
my boy was sick she took him to a doctor on the 25th of january
last week she did ask for the medicin afetr 3 weeks from the doctor visit i did ask her if she bought those medicin before she said yes but i dont beleive her i know that she is lying as usal

[tonyrob]

no she is not stable she have 2 personality

[benjimom]

I don't think it would be good to go over there and sleep once a week, if you are seperated it gives the WRONG message.  This is a difficult situation.  Sounds like she is not the most stable person.

[RockRose]

So she's so crazy you can't stand to live around her but it's okay that your kids are there defenseless.  

You need to move back,  Tony,  if only to make sure your kids are safe.  She can't be so crazy you can't stand her but your kids have to.

[tonyrob]

yes she wants me to go back but the problem is that we had fight like almost every day she is so nervous she lies a lot and i told her lets  go to a doctor so he can help but she did not want to even when we see each other she goes i will wait for your return even after 20 years i know that she loves me but i dont want the fight in front of my kids and she always do that i told her many many times not to fight in front of kids but she didnt care even once she slept my son i was sooooooooooooo crazy that time i cant live with her but i want my kids

[specialmom]

Is a reconciliation with their mother out of the question?  Would counseling help?

[specialmom]

It IS really hard on kids when parents seperate.  My guess is that it is best to tell them though.  Put it into kid language.  Your two year old will not get it but your 4 year old will.  Yes, he is going to be very sad.  Such is the nature of breaking up the family.  Try to create as much routine and stability that you can.  good luck