Our 6 year old daughter is in 1st grade and this is the first month of school and already she has had 2 out of 3 recesses taken away. Instead, she goes to what is called, "game table" where kids who can't handle recess go and play games, draw, whatever. Basically, according to the principal, some kids can't handle being outside with so much space and so many kids. She was pretty much all over the place i.e.: trying to play with the big kids and when they said no, she was just a baby, and ganged up on her, she kicked them. I know that was wrong and we talked about it. I also know that she is not the only kid out there who uses recess to go out, have fun and let energy out.However, after the incident mentioned above, I think the radar was out on her.
Now, I have sat in on 2 of these game tables to show her support and see what it is like and how she acts. There are maybe a half dozen kids interacting and she seems to be doing fine. However, there are issues now with her in the classroom. She got in trouble for chasing a kid around the classroom. Well, they were both chasing each other, but the teacher singled out Alexa because it seems that now Alexa has a reputation. And the teacher is not the friendliest to me for whatever reason, and whenever I greet her at the door, she never says hello and goes straight into what my daughter has done wrong, right in front of her. She has called her a liar and snorted when Alexa gave her version. Now, I know my child is not an angel, but I guess there is a way of approaching things, and I would rather her pull me aside and talk to me instead of doing it in front of other kids and in an argumentative manner.
I am at my wits end because I am trying to support and be involved with my child's education, but I feel like this game table is isolating her and not letting her release energy. She had some girlfriends in the beginning who seemed to have "turned" on her and don't want to be friends with her anymore. I am not sure why, but I am sure it is partly due to the fact she doesn't get to play with her friends at recess anymore.
It breaks my heart to see my kid go through this. And I feel that I don't have a say in the matter. My husband and I want to sit down and talk to the principal together because I feel the principal and the teacher don't take me seriously. I came to game table today (this is my 2nd time going, once last week and once this week) and we were playing a game together and she comes up and says that Alexa needs to interact with kids and not just me. I was taken aback and kind of embarrassed. Alexa loves when I come. It makes her feel good and I didn't think once a week was a bad thing...
I am not sure if or when she will get her recesses back but I feel like it is slowly causing some damage. She has always been a very social kid and craves to be part of the group, and I feel like this is hindering that and causing disruption in the classroom from energy not being released. Any thoughts? Thanks.