My boyfriends son is constantly bullying my daughter

[babyjayde]

Ok, so for the most part they are both pretty normal for their ages, he is 6 she is 3, but he gets in these moods where he intentionally does all he can to make her cry, then makes fun of her for crying! He'l push her down rather than ask her to move and says it is because if he were to ask her to move she would cry. A few weeks ago he threw his bike on her simply because he felt he shouldn't ask her to move, when his dad came out it was a different story...sadly for the most part his dad believes his lies. His son even bullies a babysitter...threw his drumstick at her but luckily for us he missed! His dad doesn't really discipline him, he believes that talking to him about his actions is enough and if I bring up my thoughts on it and the way my daughter is treated he goes on to the part about how hard his son has it. I don't think it should matter... manners are manners right?

[RockRose]

What is your boyfriend talking about when he says his son has it hard?  Is it true?  

[babyjayde]

He does have it hard, but no harder then most kids out there with divorced parents..at least he gets to see both his mother and father, my lil girl can't see her father (due to her father's incapability to be a decent human being) AND to top it off she has multiple heart defects. The most strenuous thing in my boyfriend's son's life it the fact that his parents are no longer together. Which I hate to reiterate,  is COMPLETELY normal in this day and age.

[RockRose]

I sort of agreed with you until the end,  babyjayde,  and then you said it's COMPLETELY normal.  Starving can be completely normal for children in the horn of Africa,  living in underground tunnels during WWII was completely normal for children in London but just because it's pretty typical doesn't mean it doesn't do irreparable harm.  

I must say,  I don't think there's hope in this situation.  This is why blended family don't usually work.  I think you should move on and not put your daughter through this,  because it won't change.

[babyjayde]

ok maybe I shouldn't have worded it that way but statistically it is true. And I do not give my daughter any exceptions just because she doesn't see her father and has heart defects...

[margypops]

I feel you need to speak firnmy to the son and the Dad as this behavior to this small child should stop,you should be presant when they are together and watchful of this bad behavior from him, whatever hard a life his Dad thinks he hashad, that is no excuse for bullying a child and yes maybe you have to move on to protect your child..If his Dad wont punish him for being so mean do you think it will get better ?