3 year old behavior management

Question

I work in a child care facility with 3-5 year olds (preschool age). I have 24 students in my class and I have one child that lately is having very severe behavior management problems. She has always had problems with behavior, but most recently it has grown worse than ever. When the children get in trouble they are supposed to go to timeout for how ever many minutes they are old. I try to put this certain child in timeout and she refuses. She tells me "no" constantly, she spits at me, sticks her tongue out at me, mocks me, and most recently has tried blowing snot on me. She absolutely refuses to do anything you ask her. I've tried reasoning with her, I've tried to sit down & talk with her to see why she did a certain thing, but she just doesn't seem to care. She has occasionally been sent to the office to see the "principal" but even that doesn't phase her anymore. She will be "good" for a few minutes but then it's back to her old ways. Is there anything I can try to do to get this behavior under control?

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margypops · Answer

I see this was an old thread so the post above  is for Alisha

margypops · Answer

it sounds to me as if you are overwhelmed, how old is this girl? Could she be doing this behavior to get attention, would you say that with 10 of them to look after its hard to aportion out the right amount of positive attention to all of them.I feel you need some help.It is possible as the co teachers say that the children have picked up on some frailty/stress in you .Have you spoken to the owner of the pre school and asked for help. that would be the first thing then how about lightening the atmosphere at school with some fun and games .Maye a chat with the parents and ask if her behavior is okay at home .Good Luck

Alisha1010 · Answer

I am alone with 10 3year olds and working in an unsupportive environment.  I have a girl that pushes and shoves, whispers bad things to do to another student ect.  I also have a boy who refused and runs away when it is time to go anywhere.  I have another little girl who says threatening things to her class mates ( I am going to cut your finger off)  I have a little boy that is academically off the charts but runs away and laughs while doing it.  I have an extreemly spoiled child who needs to be taught how to ask for help.  I have another child that becomes violent when he can not have his own way and is still throwing tantrums (throwing chairs and toys).  I have two very sweet little girls that are constantly getting bullied or hurt because of these behaviors.  My co- teachers says it is because I am stresseed and the children feel it and I have watch my co worker having conversations with the owner saying that I told the kids they will not be going outside because they are not listening and following directions.  I am living a nightmare.  Any advise besides ignore the behaviors
tricia