3 yo male inappropriate behavior

[dts_3577]

Hi, I am just concerned about my 3 year old boy's behavior when interacting with other kids at daycare.  He, first off, lays face down on his hands and does like a masturbation movement that I see somewhat frightening and he does it at home and recently started it at daycare and we all try to keep him busy but, even in the middle of an activity. he will just drop down to the floor and start doing it.  Secondly, he recently put his hands down the front of the pants of a little girl he was sitting by on the couch while they were waiting for lunch at the daycare.  This concerned me a bit but the girl's mom said oh "boys will be boys".  Lastly, he told that little girls brother, who is my older son's friend, that he likes to kiss girls while they're naked.  This freaked me out. The mom is now getting a little concerned by his behavior and I don't want him to get labeled as the bad kid in daycare.  I don't know where he could be getting this!!! He watches no television and my older son is as sweet as they come, there is no abuse whatsoever, we don't allow any perverse language in our house and I am appauled by this.  The daycare also has a Christian base to it... I have been at my wits end and crying all morning, wondering what we should do with him. Please help!! thanks

[irrelevance]

All this "don't worry about it" I saw a red-flag in your post about this little girl's older brother... Did you happen to ask him why he said that he likes to "kiss girls while they're naked" ? Could he be picking up this behavior from him? How does he know the girls brother? Is he exposed to this other kid sometime during daycare ? I know kids can be sneaky, so I would do at least a little more investigating before I would just "not worry about it" But that's my own opinion.

[lisamumof6]

hi,
i dont think the whole touching himself is a big thing to worry about.both boys and girls do it, i have 1 boy and 1 girl but have 2 step- boys and 2 step-girls.all different ages.my youngest son is only 3 and he does touch himself i was concerned at 1 point but the health visitor said it is absoultly normal.then my girl started she is only 2 and i was told girls do it too.i tell them to do it in private if they want to do that.i do agree with 91004 about just explaining to your son that he cant do it to others.maybe you can explain that not everybody likes things like that.give an example like:
he may like bob the builder but his brother dont, it the same thing as do you get what im trying to say?!.dont worry too much i belive it is perfectly normal for them to touch themselves it all part of them learning about themselves.
im always happy to talk if you want help.like i said i do have 6 kids in total.they are all different ages.they aged 2, 3, 5, 7, 9 and also 19.(the 2,3 are mine 5,7,9 and 19 are my step-kids lol)the best thing is im only 22 lol.
kind regards lisa.

[91004]

Could he of learned this behavior somewhere, I know you said he doesn't watch tv. I would explain that the behavior is not appropriate at school that if he's going to do that he needs to go to his room or somewhere private and not in front of people. Playing with theirselves is perfectly normal, my son is 4 and he does but he knows to do it in private. As far as touching the girl and making comments I would also tell him it is not appropriate and not nice. I wouldn't worry, just have a one on one talk with him next time it happens, don't make a big deal out of it, just explain and go on. He will eventually understand. If he does it at daycare they need to tell him the same.