grandma thinks this is a problem is she right or is my child ok

[annoyinggranma]

My daughter is going to be two in november. She has developed a habit of wanting to be in her room. She has a tv, vcr, movie, toys, and is allowed to do anything she wants in there without punishment (prettymuch).  She will offten come out to play or see what everyones doing stay out for 40 min or so and go back to her room for about an hour. She also goes to her room if she doesn't get what she wants, or gets in trouble "told no ect.". we have her on a schedule where she gets up, naps, and goes to bed which she handles fine. However, she really does spend a lot of time in her room. My mom is driving me nuts telling me there's something wrong, and i'm not around all day long so i dont see it (i have school and work full time). is my daughter starting an antisocial habit i should worry about or just getting comfortable with having her on space to be free in?

[specialmom]

Oh,I'm sorry to hear about you losing your job.  Boy, it's a tough time these days.  That stinks-----  good luck.

[annoyinggranma]

thanks for the ideas and concerns. yes she is an only child. Whenever i take her out places she is very social with other kids and adults, but like i said when were home she just doesn't seem to want to be out and about in the house. I will look in to setting up play dates. I hope it just turns out to be a boardum thing, and that things will cange. I just lost my job today so i'll be home more and will be able to make sure she is getting out more. once angain thanks.

[mcw1230]

My son did the same thing around that age.  He still does every so often but is otherwise very social now.  It justs seemed to be a phase he was going through.

[jdtm]

This posting reminds me of our nephew when he was very young.  He played by himself and was quiet and well-behaved.  My sister would brag about how "good" her child was and point out how "difficult" mine was.  Later, he was diagnosed with PDD-NOS which is a high-functioning form of autism.  This is not to say that your daughter suffers from autism but I think I would look a bit closer at what is (or might be) occurring.  Just in case .....

[specialmom]

I agree completely with the above two ladies!  TV in bedrooms is not a good idea even for an older child.  Interaction is what a child really needs.  Sure, every kid needs some down time and it's good to be able to play by themselves on occasion.  But she's 2, not 17.  My life as a mom would be a lot easier if my kids just hung out in their rooms all day-----  but we get out and go.  It's good for everyone.  Take care.

[margypops]

I dont think it is a good idea for any child of any age to have TV  VCR in her room a child of this age should be playing, interacting rading going out to parks, ball games not just in a room by her self this behavior is a learned behavior, , this is the adults who just want peace, this isnt helping a 2 year old child ,sounds like all could use parenting classes.

[skepticalpeach]

It doesn't sound like anything too serious. Is she any only child? I think only children are pretty good at playing by themselves. There's nothing wrong with that. It would be a really good idea to start getting her some play dates with some kids her age though. It will help her be more social. She's probably just a pretty mellow kiddo.