My 4 year-old step-daughter will only eat a very limited number of foods (yogurt w/o chunks), cheerios, applesauce, peanut butter, and junk food. Her pediatrician said she was malnourished and said to put "regular" food in front of her and nothing else. "When she gets hungry; she'll eat." She went 5 days with out eating (this felt like neglect to me). We gave in and fed her her normal yogurt, cheerios, and PB. She will cough up or vomit up in some cases anything placed in her mouth and she will sit at the table for hours if we let her. She has never eaten "normal food," meat or vegetables.
As an infant, she was shaken by her mother who then lost custody for a year. Her father and I have residency but not full custody at this time. And her relationship with her mother is extremely volatile. I think this is a control issue but have no idea how to help at this point. We have tried counseling but even a nutritionist couldn't get her to eat.
What do we do now?