6 year old girl who doesn't like to wipe

[backusjenn]

I don't know what to do anymore.  I have a smart, loving, happy 6 year old girl that has recently decided that she doesn't care to wipe herself after peeing.  Me and my husband are concerned because the tendancy for getting bladder infections or UTI's is strong in my family line, and I'm worried that she will get a really bad UTI from not wiping.  I put her in diapers (pull-ups) tonight before bed to show her that if she acts like a baby, she'll wear "baby" underwear.  I'm making her wear a pull-up to school tomorrow.  

On top of that, she's increasingly snotty and rude to me and my husband.  She's starting to lay guilt trips on us if we say no to ANYTHING.  Even when her and I go out for a "Mommy and Me" day, or if we go out as a family, she doesn't seem to enjoy herself nearly as much as she normally does.  

I don't know what else to do, and I'm tired of her always being on punishment.  It's as much a punishment to her little brother as it is to her, since he loves to play with her so much.  Is this the age where little girls start getting snooty or is it something else?  HELP!!!

[allmymarbles]

By the by, urine is sterile. Unless I am missing something I don't see how it could cause an infection. She certainly would smell nasty though,

[backusjenn]

That may be an issue - I didn't think of that.  We did also just change schools about a month ago and she's had to get used to a whole new set of friends, etc...  

[backusjenn]

I said that I have made it very clear to her that she won't get in any trouble whatsoever for asking for toilet paper.  The punishment was for failing to use basic hygiene when using the bathroom.  

[jdtm]

I'm assuming that the school year is nearly over.  Is it possible that your daughter is just overly exhausted from this year's efforts?  Just wondering ....

[margypops]

Try making less of the issue ,see what happens , too much talk about it will cause anxiety, it seems like you are the one worrying , is her Dad as concerned. Let it go and see if she does it herself, she will get into the habit as she gets older and probably more interested in her hygeine.You say you have made it clear she wont get into trouble but putting baby pullups on a 6 year old to bed and also school in my opinion is  punishment...so how do you mean she doesnt get into trouble. . ..  

[backusjenn]

I do praise her.  All the time.  I am the older sibling in my family, so I am very sensitive to her feelings as the older child.  This has not seemed to help.  Don't get me wrong, all in all she's a wonderful child (a lot better behaved than most) and so maybe this is why the little things seem to be bigger than they actually are...

I am not standing over her checking to see if she's wiped.  The way we found out the last couple times is because there was no toilet paper, and instead of asking for more, she just didn't wipe.  We've made it very clear that she won't get in any trouble whatsoever for asking for TP.  

I would hate for her to have to go through a painful UTI to see the benefit and the need for wiping - that's all...

[margypops]

I dont agree with punishments like this for a child behavior it is not the way to help your child.. in fact it will have the reverse effect and make her anxious. Putting pullups/diapers back on a child of 6 seems like a bad idea so it may be good if you stop this , and to school even worse. You say you are tired of her 'being on punishment' how about you focus on her positive side and praise her when you see her doing something right.It could be she has felt left out out , of attention the younger child gets, as for wiping, do you stand over her to see she does it, ? perhaps if you allow her some privacy and space and trust her she will do it, it is a choice isnt it, not a hard and fast rule, leave it alone and she will do it naturally I dont think it needs more..