8 year old out of control

[rasher]

Ever since i can remember my son has been out of control. He is 8 now and it seems to be getting really really bad. I have come to the stage now where i just can't handle him anymore. He throws temper tantrums, trys to kill himself by choking his neck,he calls me and his Father really bad names curse's a lot,kicks me hits me ,say's he wishes we where dead ,the list goes on.
I just need someone to please tell me what to do with him,or do i need to take him to c someone.
Please help

[rasher]

He is in 3rd Grade at school. I have got 2 other kids a s well  and they behave good. This is during the summer as well when he dosen't have school .

[RockRose]

If he behaves well at school (he's in 2nd grade maybe?  so this is his 3rd year of school?) that's a positive.  He has the desire to please adults and can get along reasonably well with the kids at school,  and has a reasonable number of friends in his class?

This is one of two things:

1.  You really could use some parenting classes and help with parenting skills

OR

2.  It's very very difficult for him to behave all day at school and he stores up his rage until he gets home.  

Do either one of those things sound possible?

[rasher]

He does go to school. He is good at school it's just at the house, and when we go out somewhere or he dosent get his own way that's the problem.

[RockRose]

Does he attend school?  Behavior like this would certainly have been evaluated before he got to 8 years old.

[SL345]

Contact the Department of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, Calgary Health Region,  Foothills Medical Centre, 1403 - 29 Street NW, Calgary, Alberta Canada T2N 2T9
(403) 944 - 1298 or Director's office (403) 944 - 2489. It's 1.5 hours away. Call and they may be able to direct you to more local resources. Call today & good luck!

[rasher]

I just posted my location on my profile
Thank u

[SL345]

You can call his pediatrician or you can go directly to a local teaching hospital's department of child psychiatry. If you're concerned about insurance, call you provider and ask for in-network child psychiatry programs. Do NOT wait for this to go away by itself or to see what happens when he gets older. You're saying he's trying to kill himself - there's an underlying problem that needs to be evaluated and treated. You would never forgive yourself if something happened to him and you didn't act to get him help. If you need help locating appropriate resources in your area, and you feel comfortable doing so, post your general location and we can try to direct you to reputable resources in your area.

[rasher]

But who do i take him to.We thought it would get better as he got older but it's getting worse. Do i take him to a doctor first. Could u tell me please

[SL345]

Why hasn't he seen someone yet?