Are two year olds suppose to govern your life?

[Maia0707]

Hi,
I am new to this site I was hoping some other parents out there might have some words of advice. My daughter turned two this week, yesterday was her birthday party...it was a nightmare!!!
She has a tendency to act out when around a groups of people...but these people are not strangers...they are her aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins. She is a bit delayed with her speech, alot of her communicating is done with gestures and alot of WHINING!!!! She is reciving services for her speech and it is slowly improving.
Yesterday I was unable to do anything to soothe her and to stop her acting out behaviors. If she went into the pool with in 30 seconds she wanted out of the pool....before she changed into her bathing suit...she would not stop splashing the pool water onto herself and anyone near by. When it was time to change into her suit, she was refusing to get changed and had to be taken into the house screeming/protesting the entire time!!!
Her Godfather bought her a bunny for her gift...she loves animals, at one point she just decided to kick the bunny for no apparent reason. We did a coloring craft...she is only allowed to have one marker at a time...this is a standard rule that we follow at home...well NO WAY would she do that yesterday and she acted out yelling and hitting my hand for at least 15 mins. she would not take one marker to color!!!!
I am noy sure what else to do  i am in the process of having her seea developmental peditracin. I think she may be just so strong willed...but I need to help her she can't act this way in school or with other children
I am going on and on...please help!!!!

[Trialanderror]

Maia, she only just turned two, give her time to develop, it doesn`t sound unusual for a two-year-old. She is just entering the "terrific-terrible" twos, exploring her independence and abilities. Quite likely she will tend to act out more if her speech had been delayed before. Sure you can help her to use her words instead of acting out and yes, don`t pay too much attention to her during those moments so as not to instill bad habits. But aside from that, it may just be her temperament. Some infants/toddlers/preschoolers need more space, less people, less stimulation than others in order to function properly. It`s not a coincidence that they recommend for birthday parties: One visitor per year of age - or else she will be overwhelmed. My son was just the same way, I still remember his third birthday in horror, but once he turned five he was really socially matured.

[margypops]

It is always a good thing to seek advice when you feel overwhelmed ,she was probably trying to have everyone pay her attention  as it was her birthday,Maybe you over react to the situations and she acts out more. Is it possible she was showing off and you thought it was over the Top, and then it escalated due to your intervention, would it have caused you a problem to allow her to be herself Whining and all, back off a bit and see if it helps.