Trial - your son has the gift of very long term memory! That's a great thing. It's amazing, isn't it, the context that a little baby can put this whole thing in, how clearly he remembers what happened although the detail of who died is a little fuzzy. The rest is very clear.
My youngest son has a memory from when he was 11 months old. We were at Caddo Lake, which is a swamp with mossy trees hanging over it - looks like a Louisiana Bayou. We were in a canoe, the 5 of us, and my husband told the story of when he was a child his family was in the Okefenokee (sp) swamp, and an alligator came up to their canoe and his dad had to fight it off with the paddle - and my husband kind of reinacted the battle. EEKS it kind of freaked out my kids and they kept looking for alligators at Caddo. Then when my youngest son was about 5, like your son, he said wow remember that time we were in the swamp and Dad had to fight off the alligtaor with the paddle? And he remembered it so clearly -although the memory kind of crossed and he remembered the alligator was there, not a story of an alligator. It was amazing. He told the whole story, and did the fighting motion so clearly, he remembered it. He still insists the memory is true, not a mixed memory, though.
It is sad, you're right, for kids who have seen awful things and lived through crises, they must remember those things too on some level.
thats wierd,
When i was 3 my greatgrandmother passed away and while we were at the ceremony I got a little to close to the casket and I slipped in between the metal bar were the casket sits and the ground. If it wasnt for my moms fast thinking of grabbing my long hair I would have went in the ground under her. I am now 26 and I remember that day like it was yesterday, freaks me out every time I think about it. Sadly I am still scared of ceremonys and funerals, I have nightmare everytime I go to one.
He probably does remember it.