Dude. I lived with my aunt and uncle for a year and ended up having a sexual relationship with the husband. This is EXACTLY what we did. He would help me with homework and then fall asleep and then early in the morning the wife would realize and come down and get him. We went to the store together, on walks at night, watched movies together, I helped him with building projects. We weren't actually related and his wife was evil so it's not as ****** up as yours but I wholeheartedly believe that's what's going on in your home. And my gradual infatuation with him was also my gradual hatred of the wife. So that's you in this scenario. And that explains why your daughter doesn't want to be around you. She's jealous. You gotta get him out of your house. Your daughter is going to hate you for it but know that you're doing that right thing. And get her some therapy. It takes time. But you cannot let her be around him anymore.
And asking them will not help. If she's 18 she's going to be pissed at you and loyal to him. Father figures can get a real hold on a girls mind. She's gonna protect him and protect their "relationship". She's living in a fantasy and it's probably hurting her very very badly. Asking him will not help. He will probably tell you she's going through something and needs support or it's weird teenager stuff or an excuse like that. You'll know if you have asked him... get him out. I agree with the waiting until the middle of the night to walk in. Or just listen outside of the door. Make them think you're asleep. I know all of this. I've done it before.
I say hidden camera. Even though this situation has probably already ended.
Well let me start by saying Im glad Im not a member of your family's if a father cant fall asleep on his daughters bed without been branded a peadophile or pervert. Have you ever thought that they have just bonded after 18 years of missed relationship. Maybe your marriage has broken down in his eyes and it is an escape for him?? Dont get me wrong there could be something more sinister but this is a man you have been married to for over 20 years and have two children with, surely peadophila and insest are not the first conclusions you can come to. I truely hope you sort your problem out and I truely hope its an innocent explication.
Don't spoil your relationship with your husband and always keep watch on them. Dont worry If your husband's nature is good then he will never have sex with his own daughter. And give more love to her and always be agree with her.try to take out her for 3 to 4days .
Obviously him falling asleep in her bed on a daily basis is not normal. It's normal to bond but must it always be at night? Hopefully it's innocent, but the fact that your relationship with your daughter has changed also sets off a red flag. Trust your gut. Talk to your daughter in a non-accusatory manner. Try to find out what's causing the tension. Could it be your husband is opening up to her about marital problems & she's become resentful or could the cause be more sinister in nature. Regardless, start by opening the lines of communication with your daughter. After all, it's your duty to protect her.