maybe she did, or senses us. I am going to try some of your suggestions - thank you.
Has she never heard you say anything perhaps to her Dad ,it is also possible that other children may have said something to her.but it would be minor children dont dwell on these things thats an adult way of handling stuff,kids accept everything have you ever noticed that. how about you ignore it next time she says to you she has a stomach pain, say 'Ok It will be gone soon, " and say no more, get her distracted and busy doing something, you can always keep an eye on her in case she really is sick, so next time treat it with not much attention , I do believe that children react to us and our behaviors and feelings.If you are concerned I would say Yes you could ask for some help with a counsellor but sometimes there is no need to go this route too much leaping to Doctors for behaviors, then next thing they are on meds with nasty side effects, .Again though it never hurts to ask for advice and help.
Thank-you for your helpfull comments. Thing is, since being on medication for the past 4 years - I do not show any concern or dwell on the stomach pain thing - infact I appear to be very calm and in most cases i am. I do and have been seeing a councellor for years. That is why I am so confused as she never ever sees from myself or my husband any kind of fear in relation to the stomach pain issue. I am wondering if I am reading too much into thinking that she is focusing on that - understand what I am trying to say? I feel she is having seperation issues now all of a sudden, but ironically instead of saying i miss you - she says her tummy hurts. She hasn't wanted to sleep in her own bed for the last month either - when I try to get her to - " my tummy hurts". It is almost like she knows that one phrase horrifys me inside - but I don't know how she could actually know that. Why is she so concerned about me having stomach pain ans if I am going to throw - up? Could someone have told her?
My sympathies go out to you on the loss of your son, it must be hard to bear at times. I am wondering if you are making your daughter anxious as you seem to be dwelling on your son and the way he died, these are your anxieties but she seems to be picking up on them, perhaps when she gets a regular stomach ache you are immediatly worrying , and fussing over her.As she was very young when it happened all her thoughts and memories come from you. It could be a good idea for you to get some counselling to deal with your fears, I appreciate your concerns ,for her, she is probably picking it up from you so you would do better to let it go when she is around , .